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Do you speak to your DCs ILs? Question about DDs wedding

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ASMRTingles · 04/11/2021 18:58

DD1s ILs live nearby (she went to school with her DP although they weren’t a couple then). DD1 now lives 2 hours away so used to ask me to drop stuff off at ILs if they were visiting DD to save me posting it etc. I have offered to do the same for them. Only when I’ve been round, they pretended not to be in, though I could see they were inside? So I had to post the items anyway. This happened a couple of times so I don’t go now. DD and her DP had an engagement party in our town and they didn’t speak to me or DDs Dad at all (we’re separated) the whole night, just walked past us. I don’t know if they don’t approve of DD but they do go visit her and DP so I don’t think they would if they didn’t? It doesn’t really matter except for DD and her DP are planning their wedding and want me, exDH, ILs and DD and her DP on a table together. ExDH and I get on fine but what are we going to talk about ?! It’s not a top table she said so it’s not like we’ll be on opposite ends and I can just talk to DH. I know it’s only a couple of hours I just don’t want to make their day awkward. Any advice ?

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Bushkin · 04/11/2021 19:00

Have you asked DD? Would be surprised if she didn’t know

Sixtycats · 04/11/2021 19:02

Try and get her alone. Is there any chance he is isolating her from you?

ASMRTingles · 04/11/2021 19:47

I mentioned when they pretended to be out and she said oh they didn’t hear you and I was a bit Hmm so I didn’t push it.

I don’t know about the isolation, both me and DH have visited and stayed with them before and she speaks to us both regularly. Is there anything I should look out for ?

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DogCatRabbit · 04/11/2021 19:52

Ours are very different kinds of people but live near to each other and try to have lunch together a once or twice a year (without us).

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