Husband mean to me when baby wakes him before work!

[Mamaof2222]

So we have a four and a half month old baby. My husband is self employed and works when he has things in the diary. Since day one I gave done all but maybe one night feed. My husband has got into this routine where he has casually asked me to go in the other room with baby when he has work. This has really irritated me because every night I choose to go to bed early as I know baby will be up yet he stays up watching TV until about 1am (I know I can't be mad about that as this makes him happy but I'd like to so that but I know I will be a raging mess the next day). Baby is quite good and only wakes twice maybe once for a dummy/feed then at 5am to stay up for a while. this morning he woke up(only one hour n and half before his alarm was due to go off) as soon as the baby made a noise not even giving me a chance to console him back to sleep went into the other room. When I finally greeted him this morning he had a go at me said if he does at work (psychical job) then we know who's to blame etc (blaming me!). I don't care about anything when I'm sleeping apparantly. I am just so angry as I completely understand he has to work but he doesn't get how exhausting it is. He also finishes work quite early around 3/4pm and straight after
still manages to go for walk in the day for about an hour. When I do not get one minute to myself. And I just think if you were that tired you would scrap your walk and come home to relax! Am I being too sensitive right now!?

works when he has things in the diary

Well. I'd love to only work when I have bills in my diary.

What a prick. Why are you with him?

At the moment yes as I am currently on mat leave. Once I go back to work next year I won't be.

Is he doing 50% of the housework, child rearing and nigh wakes on the weekend?

You are doing your child NO FAVOURS staying with this twat.

What is the job? A lot of physical jobs are dangerous when you’re tired & that’s why when he has jobs it makes sense to prioritise his sleep. But why on earth isn’t he raising his own child when he doesn’t have jobs in the diary / late starts? Seems like you married a loser - get your ducks in order and leave the bugger.

@Ozanj

What is the job? A lot of physical jobs are dangerous when you’re tired & that’s why when he has jobs it makes sense to prioritise his sleep. But why on earth isn’t he raising his own child when he doesn’t have jobs in the diary / late starts? Seems like you married a loser - get your ducks in order and leave the bugger.

He can prioritise his sleep without being a prick to his wife. He can go to bed instead of staying up late. He could take his baby for half the evening then go to bed and still get plenty of sleep before baby wakes up. He chooses to do whatever suits him and be a prick to his wife about it, who doesn’t get many choices as she’s looking after a baby round the clock. Tomorrow he can take baby on his walk op. My husband would take baby on a walk from when newborn, it’s the easiest thing possible to do with a baby after all.

God these threads are so bloody depressing. Why does anyone put up with this shit? He's an adult man and just as responsible for this baby as you are. Genuinely cannot imagine wanting to remain with a person who treated me with this much entitlement and contempt.

Bin him, OP, this will not improve as your kid gets older.

It's up to you what you do but he sounds like he is very entitled. He just wants you to keep him happy no matter the impact on you. You've worked you know it's not that hard. Look at your options and think about what you want for yourself

He’s awful. At that age my DS was barely sleeping and my DH got up with him every morning at 4am before work so I could sleep before he left for work at 7. You are not being unreasonable.