Missing the bond of being a single parent 😔

[katparke]

I know this sounds ridiculously selfish as I'm lucky enough to have a new partner who adores my 8yr old daughter & who adores him back. But it's breaking my heart...
The fact is, the bond my daughter & I shared for the 3 years I was a single parent, after her father left us; has gone! Replaced by her worshipping the ground my partner (of 3 years) walks on. She confides in him, plays more with him, chooses to do things with him over me & generally seems to love him more!
I know how juvenile & pathetic I sound but I cant help it! I'm jealous, sad & lonely! I miss the old "you & me against the world" relationship we had for the 3 years I was a single parent after her father left us & it breaks my heart everyday that we're not like that anymore. 😥
Any similar experiences or advice out there? TIA x

I'm a stepdad. One of the girls was 6 when I moved in. When she was seven there was a period where she confided in me a lot and she'd 'choose' me a lot.

It passed - we still have a great relationship, but her mum was definitely back to being no. 1 for her after a while.

Not saying it'll be the same, but I definitely recognise it.

Why is it a competition? Just take her out for one to one time?

Sounds odd to feel this way, with all the awful stories in the news about children being abused and killed by step parents isn’t it nice that you’ve found a good one? I think you need to change your mind set on this

Does he live with you?

I’ve just seen the other thread you’ve started today about precocious puberty and fact you think your daughter is starting this and very worried

Does is this related to this concern at all?

I think this sounds odd too. I’d be feeling massively relieved if my child settle so well with a new partner. Perhaps live separately to partner if it’s affecting you this much?

Maybe it's better if you don't live with your dp. So you and DD have lots of special time together.