Deep conversations - examples

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I've been watching mafs aus (not that relevant to the question), but there is own couple where the girl likes to constantly have deep & intense conversation. The man says he likes some deep conversations some of the time but finds them exhausting and emotionally draining and he feels tired after them. He's happy to do it some of the time but not as often as she'd like to.

I find the whole conversation confusing as it's really vague and left me wondering if I have deep conversations or not?!

I've read that deep conversations are when you talk about feelings rather than facts. But does that mean that every time you talk about your feelings it's 'deep'? Or are deep conversations more about debating the meaning of life etc.

I do the former all the time but can't really imagine me ever doing the latter, not in detail anyway and not on dates?

If it’s the MAFS couple, the woman is just convinced she’s better than the man. Deep conversations is his she phrases it to make him sound like an emotional puddle to her ocean of awesomeness.

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If it’s the MAFS couple, the woman is just convinced she’s better than the man. Deep conversations is his she phrases it to make him sound like an emotional puddle to her ocean of awesomeness.

Yeah Brett & Booka! She totally looks down on him (and everyone)

But what it's left me wondering is if I have deep conversations or not. I've got now idea anymore

I’m not sure you should be reflecting on your own depth in relation to this. It’s like trying to use one of those wobbly mirrors in a fun fair to assess what you look like.

You have normal conversations (I’m confident). Sometimes it will be appropriate to talk about feelings, sometimes details, sometimes frivolous nonsense. You almost certainly do all of the above and match it to the situation you find yourself in.

To me there are two types of deep conversation. Firstly, the deeply personal where you share experiences, thoughts or feelings that you wouldn't share with everyone or lightly. They signify trust in the other person and are bonding.
Secondly, there are those that centre on more complex issues, political, philosophical, social etc. They make you think and may challenge your perspective.
And its relative really

...as everyone has their own ideas around what is complex and how much they like to confide.

You talk as if there's some external tick-list of what constitutes 'A Deep Conversation'. There isn't. Something that seems deep to you won't seem deep to someone else, and vice versa.

The trick is to surround yourself with people who find 'deep' in the same place as you, and like the same level of depth as you. Not to alter your level. With people you can have healthy relationships with, the question won't come up; you'll just feel like you fit.

I think in general means talking about ideas and concepts underlying the things that you observe, rather than what’s surface level and meets the eye. For example talking about groceries being expensive is not deep, but talking about poverty’s effect on social mobility or the merits of capitalism is

Thanks everyone! I've got not intention to tray and change my conversations, I was just baffled by their discussions and couldn't work out what they meant by deep conversations, then was trying to think of examples of what I chat about and whether they would be deep or not!

@AnaViaSalamanca you're example has really helped l. I had thought when it was a couple who were dating, a deep conversation meant about a chat regarding their feelings towards each other, what love is etc.

That had been my understanding but I was then confused by why this girl seemed to think her deep chats showed she was more intelligent etc. if all she was doing was chatting about her emotions.

The example you've given really puts into context and I guess if this guy is having these convos 24:7 it could be exhausting

Actually Booka said that at least some of it was her talking to him about his homophobic jokes - so it could be that he was defensive over being called out on that stuff.

Dunno the truth of it cos that part hasn't been shown, but if by deep he means having to consider whether what he's saying is OK, then he's being an arse.