[quote user6869848649]@earthsight yes, you should definitely consider sharing your writing! What you've written is so professional, I assumed it was an excerpt from somewhere!
I'm almost slightly worried that you know us in real life because what you've wrote is so accurate. I have stopped complaining about work, because if I do he says that he's doing all this for me, and I feel really guilty about it, it shuts anything I have to say down. He also says that every spare minute he does have he spends with me, which is true in a way. He is physically there but his mind is on work and he doesn't want to do anything.
I have nothing against watching TV, it's fine in general. It's just all we seem to do. I think on an evening it's more like I would like help with clearing up after dinner and walking the dog before he watches TV. Same on a weekend really, I love watching a boxset on a Sunday but it's to the detriment of other things, of me having to do everything in the house on my own. Sunday jobs like cutting the hedge or doing a bit of DIY or mowing the lawn all have to be done by me. Our house is a bit of a mess because I work full time as well, it's about 80% renovated and I get done what I can but I can't do everything on my own and I get overwhelmed having to decide everything all the time.
Having written this reply to you, I think it's less about watching TV as such and more about feeling like I have to do everything on my own all the time. I needed DH to come with me to Next once to pick up an armchair that I'd bought ex-display and couldn't get on my own. He was so annoyed by it, complained the whole way there and was really grumpy. When we got into the shop, we bumped into my friend and she was there with her partner and they had gone to choose a rug together because they'd recently redecorated their living room, then they were going to go for lunch and I was just so jealous. I feel like that's just a normal day for most people, my parents used to do things like that when I was growing up, there was nothing really special about it and yet there was too? I don't know if that makes any sense. Just normal life.
If I saw him happy with another woman one day, I probably wouldn't believe it. I probably look happy from the outside when we're together but I would know what she would be having to deal with on the other side.[/quote]
I'm almost slightly worried that you know us in real life because what you've wrote is so accurate
Ok now I definitely have to take-up writing haha 
I haven't done so far because of various reasons but it's on my to-do list.
If it's that accurate, that just shows you how these things run in such strong patterns.
Either he's lying, or there is something compulsive about his work habits that he simply doesn't want to address. Some people also don't multiple things very well. They're either 'On' (at work, full steam ahead, stressing) or 'Off' (zoning out in front of a TV, gaming, totally absorbed in their own world, mentally absent). I'm not sure if those people think like the rest of us do. I think they find comfort or simplicity in having that kind of work/not working dualism. It means they don't have to think about other complexities which they might find stressful.
Most of us think a bit like this -
work, home, relax, have a walk around the neighbourhood with loved one
work, home, relax, read a book, call relative
work, home, relax, do some cleaning/diy, watch TV with loved one
work, home, take the pets to the vet, go out with friend
work, home, plan holidays next year, pay bills, research things about new hobby
But some people think like this -
work, home
work, home
work, home
work, home
work, home
There's a simplicity in that, but like I said, some just do it to escape their wives whilst earning brownie points for being the hardworking hero.
He was so annoyed by it, complained the whole way there and was really grumpy.
He might want to disappear into his own world and disengage from his external environment, so choosing a sofa (external environment) was the last thing he wanted to do, especially if he had any work to do. Sometimes it's difficult to tell if someone is just displeased or if they're being grumpy and difficult to punish you so you stop asking them for things.
Is he stingy with his help? Does he generally make you feel like you're an inconvenience when you ask for help with really basic things that wouldn't even register on other people's radar? Huffing, sighing, silences, being short-tempered, making you feel like you shouldn't 'bothering' him (like he's a fucking CEO of a company and you, the lowly, part-time admin assistant shouldn't be calling him about such trifling, mundane matters that you really should be able to cope on your own with)? Does he always make you feel like he is the last person you should approach for help with anything, instead of being the first line of support? That you feel you have to ask him pretty-please-with-sugar-on-top when you do and makes you feel like joint tasks are more like your tasks that he has to 'help' you with (poor man)?