Any thoughts?

[Maxim83]

So, I'm getting married to my gf on valentine's Day. It was originally going to be in 2020 but covid stopped it and it's been arranged (We have 2 children) I'm 38, she's 35.

The past year I've started to feel more and more unhappy in the relationship and I don't think I love her anymore, we have been together a long time, I've changed and feel no connection to her anymore. But I don't want to hurt her or my children by leaving. She knows I'm not very happy, but I've not said it's the relationship that's making me like this. If I do, I know it's the end.

I feel sick with worry over what to do 😔

You are facing into your worries & this can only be a good thing, however awful it currently seems
Even if it is the end of the relationship, talking it through, being honest & open will lead to (hopefully) effective co-patenting
2 unhappy people in a relationship isn't good for the children however hard you try.

You both need to support each other through this & you'll all be better off in the long term

• I wish I had been as honest with myself before I got married: 14 years in and an inevitable divorce could've been avoided & 14 happier years gained for all.

Be honest, stay calm & talk to her - the stages you both will go through are like the grief cycle ... but you'll come through it

How's things? @Maxim83