I've read a lot of advice on here for women who suspect their partners to be cheating, and it has certainly helped me in the past, but I have a slightly different concern and am looking for some advice.
Due to having suspicions about my husband cheating, and being gaslit for well over a year, when my husband finally admitted to using escorts it was a relief to know I wasn't going crazy. But then the aftermath brought more grief and I knew for my mental health that I had to leave the marital home. We had shared that home for many years, we own it jointly mortgage-free. No decisions have yet been made on the house. He still lives there.
I've not been gone long but in the past two weeks I've developed that same feeling I had before when I knew he was lying but he wasn't admitting to anything. I think he's already seeing a woman, and I think she may have been in the marital home.
I don't object to him moving on. I do object to being lied to and to being kept in the dark. When I told him I was leaving him he was apparently inconsolable, continually asking me to change my mind, saying there was nobody else.
Yet I thought all along that he may have been having an affair. To hook up with someone this quickly following our separation could indicate that there was indeed someone already in the background.
I know some people might say I'm extra suspicious because of his admissions but my gut tells me it's not this. My suspicion did not come on immediately. There have been 'odd' signs which dovetail with the 'oddness' I felt about him before.
What can I do about this problem? I can't ask him directly as he'll just lie. I am concerned about the house and I'm concerned he may be lying to our children as well.