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Can the love return? Why hasn’t it?

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Joanne2015 · 31/10/2021 15:34

Been with my partner 8 years, 3 kids. For years I’ve been feeling disconnected from him and unfulfilled sexually and emotionally. Finally I took the steps to tell him again ( did it 3 years ago and decided to stay together) that I wanted out. I just feel I don’t love him like that anymore. I do care about him and love him like a friend. I listed the things that were wrong in the relationship and was strong in my decision. Then he begged me to let him prove he could make me happy. I’ll give him his dues, the last 3 months he’s really appeared to tick off all the things that were wrong in the relationship. He’s a great dad, we don’t fight etc but even now with him sorting himself out I still can’t think about Being intimate with him, I literally feel nothing when I think about it. Will I be able to fall in love with him again? I don’t know why I don’t have these feelings even when he is pulling out the stops to be the man I need. I hate that I can’t fancy him or want to kiss him. Has anyone ever fell back in love?

OP posts:
TheFoundations · 31/10/2021 16:02

You can't engineer it. If we could choose to fall in love when we wanted to, the world would be a very different place.

It's not a recipe. It's not a case of putting in all the right ingredients and hey presto! Love!

If you don't want him, he can't make you, and you can't make yourself.

Not what you want to hear, probably, but at least it means you can't blame yourself. Or him. You both tried. It didn't work. And that's ok.

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