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[Marilynrose]

Hi All - can someone help please. My husband has stormed out the house today and he came back with a bag with a drink and a few boxes of paracetamol. He was home for about 5 mins, totally blanked me, and has gone out again taking the bag with him. What am I supposed to do? Go looking for him? Call 999? Just wait and see what happens?

Call 999.
He wants you to think he's suicidal.
Either he is, or he's a shit

The 999 services take a dim view of blackmailers

Does he have form for this behaviour?

Errm he sometimes storms off but the paracetamol thing is new. He’s usually only gone for max half an hour. It’s been over 2 hours this time. I don’t want to waste emergency services time… or cause an unnecessary drama. Really don’t know what to do.

Phone 999 and let them decide. 💐

Phone 101....police non emergency number and talk it through with them

He’s just come home. No idea if he’s taken anything and I daren’t ask because he’ll just storm off again. Thanks everyone.

This doesn’t sound very sustainable. You can’t live like this.

How many boxes of paracetamol, you can only buy 2 per transaction in the UK, so he must have gone to more than one shop if more than 2 boxes. Sounds like he wants attention, only you knows what he's like usually.

A couple of boxes of paracetamol won't kill him but he sounds like a manipulative tosser.

@girlmom More than 8 paracetamol and you're on your way to irreversible liver damage and death.

[quote Shouldbedoing]@girlmom More than 8 paracetamol and you're on your way to irreversible liver damage and death.[/quote]
Yeah it'll do him some damage but it's not something that's gonna immediately kill him. If he wanted to kill himself he'd go for something a bit more effective.

@girlmom21

A couple of boxes of paracetamol won't kill him but he sounds like a manipulative tosser.

It absolutely could.

It can cause a delayed and painful death. My friend is a doctor in A&E and said it's one of the worst ways to go, excruciating.

It's really dangerous to state as fact that it cannot kill you to take a couple of boxes. It absolutely can.

Sounds like he's acting out. He sounds very controlling. Has he sought help for his mental health?
What is the impact of his behaviour on you?

Sounds like he came back for 5 minutes purely so that you'd see the bag and its contents. That's very manipulative.

What's your relationship like in general, @Marilynrose?

@youvegottenminuteslynn ok what I meant was it's not going to immediately kill him. It's not the same as going off with the intention of never coming home.

He is just trying to make her feel really bad and guilty. If he had any intention of doing anything that he would not have let her see those tablets. It's cruel and manipulative and attention seeking.

I agree it's massively likely that he's just using it as a manipulation tactic, I just felt it was important to correct a post that read as if two boxes of paracetamol couldn't be fatal when it very much could.

In your case OP, and that of anyone else who is facing suicide threats as a manipulation tactic, I would call the emergency services and ask for a welfare check on the person.

If they actually are in danger, they need help and can then receive it. If they are just using it to manipulate, they are less likely to do it again if they know you won't engage and will simply call emergency services.

My ex did the 'I'm going to go somewhere and kill myself' after cheating yet again and after frantically calling him and messaging him begging him to come back I sent one final message saying I would call the police and ask what to do. He called me immediately and told me not to. He was in a pub with his mates. Bleurgh thank god those days are over!