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What do you think of this?

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Gingerface40 · 30/10/2021 20:21

Name change cos I feel a bit of a dick posting this.

Broke up with my ex as I felt it was going nowhere and he was a bit emotionally unavailable.

Been broke up about a month and he seen me on POF, since then it has been constant messaging wanting to see me etc.

Send some Snapchat's, bit flirty, wants to take me out tomorrow. I came off the site as I felt it wasn't for me. Logged back on today, big mistake and seen he had been online (he said he would let me take it off Sunday) he's not a technophobe and said he can't do it! It is a bit complicated.

He's rang he text a lot, what do I do? Is he trying his luck? Or am I just to sensitive?

My head is an absolute mess at the minute! Any nice advice?

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Pumpkinsondisplay · 30/10/2021 20:24

Booty call.
He hasn't changed..
Stay strong. Block.

needynelly56 · 30/10/2021 20:27

Yeah I know

Mind my confidence is through the roof as I have lost weight and had my hair done.

Constantly telling me to go over! I haven't! I wouldn't. I did want a night out tho.

needynelly56 · 30/10/2021 20:29

I have been chatting to a few who are still on the app mind! Of course he could say "well your on"
So maybe I am thinking the wrong mindset!

Stuckhere2021 · 30/10/2021 20:33

Sorry. No idea what your post means -“he said he would let me take it off Sunday”

WTF does that mean?

needynelly56 · 30/10/2021 20:42

Take him off the dating app 🤣😂

Mermaidwaves · 30/10/2021 20:53

Are you worried he is looking on POF? If he's been online then he probably is! A lot of men seem to like to keep their options open, in real life and online. If he created an OLD account I'm sure he is capable of closing it himself too?

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Gingerface40 · 30/10/2021 21:05

Nah it's a new profile, he's never been on it!

I think it's best I block again. We have only really been talking again a week.

Which shows I have feelings x

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Gingerface40 · 30/10/2021 21:33

My anxiety is sooo bad again too!

My ex has just got married today and on a excellent honeymoon from tomorrow, and here's me not knowing what the hell I am doing 🤣😂

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samesign · 30/10/2021 22:11

he said he would let me take it off Sunday) he's not a technophobe and said he can't do it! It is a bit complicated.

such BS! Funnily enough he's worked out how to create a profile though Hmm

I wouldn't waste your time again with an emotionally unavailable guy that's still looking but has a problem with you trying to move on.

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Gingerface40 · 30/10/2021 22:49

Do you think it's the finding me on the app? As I thought the same but doubted myself

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AudTheDeepMinded · 31/10/2021 00:05

Have you had a name change fail OP? (needynelly also you?)

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Gingerface40 · 31/10/2021 00:16

Yep hahahha

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1MillionDollars · 31/10/2021 00:17

He can't have you.
Doesn't want anyone else to have you.

Greenmarmalade · 31/10/2021 00:23

Don’t do it OP! You can do better. POF is full of idiots- worth avoiding. Go on a site you have to pay for, gets rid of some of the worst ones.

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gingerface40 · 31/10/2021 01:57

Just feel like a bloody fool again

Even though I haven't been over

But overly texting

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Aprilx · 31/10/2021 06:33

he said he would let me take it off on Sunday

I also cannot fathom what this means, I keep re reading it but it doesn’t make sense to me, can you elaborate?

To the rest, I would say he is toying with / teasing you. Surely you can block him on the app?

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Gingerface40 · 31/10/2021 09:55

He said he would take the app off on Sunday, if he seen me as he doesn't know how to do it.

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Greenmarmalade · 01/11/2021 10:14

Don’t feel foolish! But he sounds like he’s lying. I would block him completely.

P1ainJanine · 01/11/2021 16:14

He said he would take the app off on Sunday, if he seen me as he doesn't know how to do it.

Either he's lying or he is so stupid he doesn't know how to uninstall an app, or he thinks you're stupid enough to believe that. (He's lying).

Block him on everything and move on. He sounds a bit creepy to be honest.

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Gingerface40 · 01/11/2021 16:41

He is thick! With phones and any tech 😂🤣 but I have blocked

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ftw163532 · 01/11/2021 16:49

@Gingerface40

He said he would take the app off on Sunday, if he seen me as he doesn't know how to do it.
How did he set it up in the first place?
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Gingerface40 · 01/11/2021 17:57

I think it was the going in and deleting it, that he found hard, not that I am sticking up for him and the subscription.

Which to be fair I struggled with. I mean I was on we were broke up.

It wasn't him being on there that bothered me, it was the fact he was so cold when we finished, said he had no time for me blah blah blah, then he's asking everyone out.

He always blows hot and cold.

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youvegottenminuteslynn · 01/11/2021 18:58

So he can set up an account but can't Google how to disable it or delete the app... right.

I mean he's a fucking idiot or he's a massive liar. He's definitely the latter and he may well be both.

God the arrogance of these painfully average men to think they can lure women over to their place with the promise of letting them delete a dating app and getting a bit of cock. Ugh.

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Gingerface40 · 01/11/2021 19:39

It wasn't really that good to be honest either 🤣😂

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