Is he overreacting?

[Mumofoneandanotherontheway]

So Dh said he wanted some warm bedroom slippers… I saw some and showed him online & he said ‘they are abit grandadish’
I then replied ‘well Z wears something like that’
Z = brother In law
He’s been in a weird mood since and now I asked him what’s the matter and he said he couldn’t believe I would remember Z wears these and it’s abit strange I know what he wears!
I know because when I last went over both sister & BIL were wearing similar ones!
Is he overreacting? Or shouldn’t I have said that?

Just tell him you could never fancy a man in such slippers..
Win win.
He won't think you fancy bil - which is obviously crossing his mind..
And he won't buy any for himself..

He's massively overreacting. What a weirdo. Let him find himself some slippers.

Has he got some weird issues about trust? Because that's odd.

It's not a normal response no. there's nothing wrong with what you said. is this kind of response in general unusual for him?

That’s what I mean! I mean I have really good memory & didn’t mean anything by what I said! Ffs he’s my BIL and don’t look at him in that way at all! Dh turned around and said you would have a issue if I said you sister was wearing this or carrying this type of handbag! I find his reaction really strange and out of character! I’ve compared to others and BIL too and never has he reacted like this!

Eh?!

It would be hard not to laugh at him to be honest. Ridiculous assumption from remembering a pair of slippers!

Exactly!
I told him I’m not going to explain myself because this is stupid, your obviously feeling insecure!
D**khead! pissed me off though! Idiot!

@Mumofoneandanotherontheway

Exactly! I told him I’m not going to explain myself because this is stupid, your obviously feeling insecure! D**khead! pissed me off though! Idiot!

I'd buy him the slippers just to be petty 😉

Very strange reaction from your dh.

The fact it is out of character is relevant.

He's a twat! I'd have to be having serious words 🤬

Yeah, out of character is relevant.

Narcissists and/or someone who themselves is doing/wants to do the cheating/having the inappropriate thoughts project this away from themselves and on to the innocent party.

If there's no historical trust issues or current issues then it is a very strange change in behaviour.

Is his brother more attractive than him? Are they close in age and attended the same school? I have a friend that has a similar insecurity about her sister.

BIL is younger than him (my age), they look quiet similar actually and he’s a BIL from my side of the family.

Firstly I felt he was in some sort of weird mood so I asked him and he wouldn’t say, then he told me & I laughed. Because I didn’t even think anything of it when I said it.

He’s turning the blame onto me and saying if I was in his shoes and he pointed out about someone else I would instantly react the way he is reacting today! I probably would as I’ve always been insecure & this is from the beginning of our relationship many years ago. But he has never been like this so it’s out of character for him. I don’t know what to make of it!

As a dc did his db steal his gf?

He’s turning the blame onto me and saying if I was in his shoes and he pointed out about someone else I would instantly react the way he is reacting today! I probably would as I’ve always been insecure & this is from the beginning of our relationship many years ago.

Could he potentially just be being a dick to show you how the accusations feel? That's pretty fucked up if he is.

girlmom21 I haven’t accused or been in that situation for a very long time now. Doubt it could be that.

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