Same girl on search history

[Louu83]

Hi.. I noticed on my partners search history on Facebook the other month that there were a few different women on it .. there was one in particular that he searched for a lot though. I became really convinced that it must mean he likes this woman. We had arguments and problems over it and then it seemed to get sorted. However 2 months later and this same woman is in his search history yet again ?? He's denying it and says he hasn't searched for her. I'm convinced again that he must really like this woman if I keep seeing her on his search history. What do I do about this??

He’s lying
He’ll continue to do it because he doesn’t care about your boundaries. He might get better at deleting his search history though.

Are they friends on Facebook?
Does he have a habit of lying? What made you check his search history initially? If he's flat out denying it, giving no other reason for why he's searching her then he's hiding something.

Yeah they are friends. He does have a history of lying and not being honest x

Well now, why were you checking his search history in the first place? You've made this look like you are a person who is suspicious of his search history, ant that's it,! Well, if that is it in its entirety, then it does appear an OTTreaction. However, if the reason you looked is based on say, a change of behaviour, or a flirtatious nature keeping you on tenter hooks, that maybe adds something. I think you need to expand on things and look at an overall picture, because on it own, it's odd you'd look, and is a flimsy thing to find that is nowhere near infidelity, but may show a general lack of respect for womankind - albeit maybe just his fantasy, which I don't think is for anyone to police.

@Louu83

Yeah they are friends. He does have a history of lying and not being honest x

It doesn't look like it's about to stop. Has he ever been inappropriate with another woman while you've been together?

He does have a history of lying and not being honest

Is this the kind of man you want to spend the rest of your life with? Surely not.

He’s denying it and says he hasn’t searched for her.

Louu, constantly searching for this female friend is clearly a priority for him, and he feels entitled to lie, gaslight, and dismiss your boundaries. She is obviously on his mind a lot.

You say he has a history of lying and dishonesty. Why isn’t this a dealbreaker for you?

Just going off your concerns about the search history I'd say maybe a slight overreaction, we all look at other people's profiles out of nosiness. Maybe something was going on in her life he was interested in, maybe he does fancy her, but is he messaging her, interacting with her in any way?

Added to the comment you made about him having a history of lying though, then no, I wouldn't be happy. It's no life living with someone you can't trust

@Louu83

Yeah they are friends. He does have a history of lying and not being honest x

He's already showed you who he is, yet there you are, still with him. Why? At some point, you need to take responsibility for your own choices, yes? You're with an untrustworthy man, do you think he's miraculously going to change?

Raise your standards.

Of course he’s searching for her if it’s right there in his search history.
And he’s bare faced lying about it.
There’s obviously a reason he’s searching for her and then lying about it.
Quite honestly I couldn’t give a crap what that reason might be, I’d be showing him the door.
He’s a liar and taking you for a fool. You can do way better that. Surely any good qualities he may possess won’t be outshining the fact he a lying shitbag.

TBH, I think if you've found yourself in the habit of looking at his search history there's no hope for this relationship. It sounds like he's given you reason not to trust him, and you don't which is why you check his internet activity. Get out of this now.

My ex had an odd obsession with women. He'd often search for the same certain female friends on Facebook. Turns out he was also a porn addict.