Definitely moved on from my bolt out the blue

[aleC4]

Thought I'd start a new thread for the times when I feel I need to continue my story.

Ah @Cally20 @Zofloraqueen27 @KatherineSiena thanks so much for thinking of me. It's strange and comforting to think that people still remember my story.
@Cally20 no exh didn't marry or have any more children. They are engaged and we're due to marry in summer 2020. This obviously never happened and Ive heard no talk of it since.
We're doing really well here.
I've had a promotion at work and I'm loving my job most of the time. The dc are doing well at school most of the time too. Ds is still the sensible one and dd drives me utterly crazy but they're great really.
We have a holiday booked for the summer which I'm really looking forward to. The house needs lots of work but I'd rather spend my money on holidays! A bit frivolous but I'd hate my kids when they're adults to say 'we never had any holidays but we had a beautiful kitchen!'🤣
I'm really lucky with the wonderful family and friends I have. Exh and I get along ok these days. I see him some weekends at dd's hobby. We say hi and sometimes chat briefly, it's all water under the bridge now.
I wasn't sure we'd ever get to that point but we have. The kids don't see much of him really nowadays, they're so busy with their own lives. They see him once a week at most and it's usually out. They don't go to his house much and haven't stayed over for months.

So good to hear from you @aleC4 and to read you are living a good life… but this all down to you and how you dealt with a very difficult situation. Your lovely children seem settled and very happy and secure - again all down to you.

I could not agree more about going on holiday. You three are making memories your children will take into the far distant future. There will be plenty of time in years to come for you to be able to make changes to your home. I am sure neither of your children even notice the less than perfect places of their happy home. No one ever died saying “I’m glad I bought that filing cabinet with an extra shelf…. Or good job I painted the bathroom walls pale green”.

Enjoy your well deserved holiday knowing you really are doing such a good job making a happy family.

Another who posted on your other threads many name changes ago. I echo what others have said about how thoughtfully you navigated everything that life (or your ex) threw at you, always centring your children.
It's lovely to hear that so much is good in your life - and yes, a holiday over a kitchen every time!

Just early morning browsing as DH, AKA snore monster, is on top form.
I'm another that's been here since the beginning of your ups and downs and have been so impressed with the dignified way you've handled the shit shower caused by your ex.
Your kids are lucky to have such a lovely mother and role model.
Best wishes Mx.

Lovely to hear your news. Congratulations on the promotion and well done on raising your fab children.

Have a wonderful holiday. The house can wait. 💐

Not sure if you're still around @aleC4 but you popped into my head at the weekend, I often think of these threads and wonder how you're doing. I hope all is OK? ❤

Yes same here ! @IWannaQuitTheGym.
Sounds like everythings going well @aleC4 ?

Yes, you’re still on my watch list too. Hope all is well in your world @aleC4.

Hi Alec! What a huge coincidence - I too have been thinking about you and wondering how you are - then this pops up! A long term follower of yours from the very start -wishing you well, xx

Oh wow ladies, how lovely of you to remember me nearly 8 years on from my first post about this.
Life is good here thanks!
Still nobody special in my life man wise, but to be honest I kind of like it like that.
Ds is in his first year of uni now and enjoying his course.
Dd is in Year 12 doing her A levels. She smashed her GCSE's doing far better than she expected and is doing well in her next stage.
My friends continue to be amazing and we have lots of laugh. I'm also so lucky to have a wonderful family who have been there for me every step of the way.
Exdh gets married next month and it doesn't bother me at all to be honest. The kids are going but aren't overly bothered about it. They're going out of duty really.
He continues to be a bit of an absent dad really. He sees ds once a week and dd less because she's less bothered.
He showed his true colours when ds finished school and refused to pay anything towards his uni expenses. He stopped his maintenance on the last day of the school year 🤣

Good to hear that all is going well for you and not surprised to hear how underwhelming your ex has consistently been towards his children.