DP is being selfish about my friends

[CherryCupcake]

We booked to go and see a show next week and DH invited a couple of his friends. I didn't mind as I also wanted to invite a couple of friends.

So I did and he hit the roof saying my friends are hardly "normal" and that I'm trying to show him up in front of his friends.

He has a problem with them because they're bikers and are a little "alternative" with regards their hair and clothes etc but so am I...maybe not to their extremes but so what? I can hardly tell them to come dressed "normal" so they don't embarrass DP.

Now I dont know what to do, if they come he is going to be really off with them and me and they will end up saying something to him which will cause a row, possibly a fight. If I ask them not to come afterall what the hell am I supposed to say? what excuse could I give?

Its all booked. I dont know what to do.

I put up with alot of shite from DH but if he EVER said something like that about friends I would hit the roof.

I also have "alternative" friends, some are punks (multi-coloured mohicans, massive ear piercings), some bikers (leathers, combats, tattoos and piercings) and some very much into the emo/goth (black makeup/clothes tattoes etc) phase. If HIS friends dont like your friends/points of view it's their problem.

I would go, head up high, chest out and have a bloody good night with my friends.

I put up with alot of shite from DH but if he EVER said something like that about friends I would hit the roof.

I also have "alternative" friends, some are punks (multi-coloured mohicans, massive ear piercings), some bikers (leathers, combats, tattoos and piercings) and some very much into the emo/goth (black makeup/clothes tattoes etc) phase. If HIS friends dont like your friends/points of view it's their problem.

I would go, head up high, chest out and have a bloody good night with my friends.

Thats exactly what my friends are like, leathers, spikey, multicoloured and tatooed but they're the kindest people Ive ever met. I feel so upset and guilty.

Tell him he can stay at home if it bothers him that much. Or that your friends are ashamed of how boring he looks

What a close-minded dolt. tell him to stay at home. And tbh he doesn't sound very respectful of you if he thinks it is ok to say that.

cherrycupcake, you know what i think of your dp. this doesn't paint him in a better light that what you've already told us about him!

He sounds very closed-minded, I agree. They are your friends - even if that can't make them his friends, they ought to be welcomed by him... There must be positives to him, he is your DP. If they came, and he gets to now them, could he warm to them? It does sound hard to handle.

Your DH seems very intolerant. Don't do that to your friends.