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Feel so rejected and useless

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Mummy3girls87 · 28/10/2021 10:10

Been with my oh for 3 years. We have 1 dd. Snd my 2 from previous marriage.
We live in his owned house and I feel like our relationship is based on convenience rather than love...
We sleep in separate rooms (because I snore and he hates it), I cook, clean etc and he pays the bills.
He avoids sex... I have to ask for it, he won't initiate or do anything to me.
Last night he said he's with me for my personality and not for my looks. He never has called me beautiful or compliments me . He says he's not the type of romantic man.
He drops hints about my weight and said he would be more attracted to me if I lost weight. (I do want to but struggle so much)
I've suffered bad anxiety for over a year and this hasn't helped.
Without him, financially I have nothing but he does nothing good for my self esteem.
I do love him, but feel like he's with me because it works as he has a clean tidy home and a daughter who he worships at home!
I have no friends to talk to due to my anxiety. I love him so much but this isn't going to last, I can feel it.
Do I wait it out, try to lose weight and see if our relationship improves, or walk away and rebuild my life and independence as a single mum of 3?...

OP posts:
1MillionDollars · 28/10/2021 10:20

I'm down on love at the moment. Don't believe in it apart from the love I have for my children.

What is this love you talk about or is it just dependence, used to having him around, not wanting to be alone.

What about him do you love. The fact he puts you down all the time, the love you have for him making you feel bad about yourself and fairly worthless by the sound of it.

I think you need to try loving yourself rather than him.

How can you say you love a person like that. Would you even LIKE a friend that did this to you or would you avoid them?

samesign · 28/10/2021 10:25

The relationship has already gone, start to build your own independence, find a job and move out.

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