Need advice

[Spectre13]

I'm able to be clear, not a great history with less than stable relationships. I've an issue I can not decide the situation.

I met a lady online, seems to be going well. We have never spoken in any way but text, she has not offered phone calls, video or alike. She is planning to see me at the end of the month a long range drive for her.
I have asked for additional pictures but excuses comes after.
I like her but also in my mind is either the most perfect woman I have ever met or telling me things I would want to hear.
My ex, mother of my child is also extremely psychotic / psychopath stalking vengeful and this lady seems to knownalot of what I like. It is not out of the realms of she is who she says but seems odd.
I like her ans dont want to mess up something that is real but I am unsure. Help, advice or opinions please.

Does a long range drive mean she lives ages away?

If so, what's the point I starting anything in the first place.

You could ask her to take a picture of herself holding a piece of paper with 'hi *your name' on it. Tell her you once had a stalker so are just bring extra careful.

Or you could ask her to drop you a message from her facebook page if she has one. Say that you don't need her to add you or anything but u just need to be sure she is a real person. Obviously be aware that if the page looks brand new or is totally private though then that won't work as verification.

Alternatively, dont share anything more about your life or private stuff until you meet her. Just keep it light and cordial. And only meet in a public place. Take no chances.

And heads up, it is probably your ex.
But it could also be another catfish. If she keeps putting off meeting then you'll know.

Also, does the sight itself do verification?
Tinder does.

Oh and be aware of 'love bombing'. Learn how to spot it. Anyone seeming too good to be true early on, usually is.

*site

She isn't real.
She will ask for money next

What do you mean by psychotic when you mention your ex? If she has a psychosis the poor woman needs some help.

I met her on plenty of fish, I would look at her Facebook but also don't know her last name. I have said alot about myself to her as before I was hoping for a honest relationship and got too eager.
I asked her yesterday for a picture and said I will get one today after having it done again. I said OK, asked her plan today and said nothing about a salon to get her hair done.
She lives about 3.5 hours drive from me give or take.
A couple of things set me on edge, her name and where she previously lived is the same name and place of a friend my ex knew, her other friend is also the same name as a friend of my ex's.

If she's giving you the creeps don't bother - regardless of who she is or isn't.

@girlmom21

If she's giving you the creeps don't bother - regardless of who she is or isn't.

This.

Also, 3.5 hours op? Waste of time.
Find someone closer.

Doesn't sound great to be honest.
Sounds dodgy. Some kind of scam? Or your ex?

You are obviously concerned about it in someway otherwise you wouldn't be on here asking for opinions so listen to your gut and tell her you are no longer interested, then block her.
It's odd that she would drive 3.5 hours (and 3.5 hours back) to meet someone she has only texted. Any genuine person would have exchanged photos, chatted on the phone and perhaps video called before spending all that time driving just to find out there's no spark whatsoever.

And think on it, if she is so perfect, why wouldn't there be people nearer her lining up to date her?

That is half the reason I am here because I feel it is somewhat odd. Other reason will also answer bonbons statement.

I am used to abuse and abusive relationships, she is dominant, somewhat controlling likes to be in control and is the kindest person yiu will ever talk to ( my experience psychopath in disguise) and I am drawn there, such as my ex stabbed me ( for offering assistance in cooking) and I wanted to marry her right there and felt so much love for her. So as you can tell not the most straight wired person.

I managed to get the photos and she is the same woman as the profile pictures. At least there is that. I think I'm trying to talk myself out of it.

Hmm... photos don't necessarily prove much. I mean, if she stole some then surely she can steal more.

It's easy to reverse image search the photos on Google though I suppose. That will show you their original source. So if they are on a social media account under another name for example.

Sounds more like you're trying to talk yourself into not talking yourself out of it though.

If your gut tells you something isn't right then in all likelihood, something isn't right!

Thanks, I have decided against it.
Thank you all for helping me think.