Don't know what to do

[Jodep5]

Hiya, I recently posted a thread about splitting up with my ex partner. He's seriously got a bee in bonnet over me lending a friend on fb £20 who I have known for the last 7 years (yes he is male who is getting married and has a child) I lend him money out of my commission I make selling books and don't see what the problem is? He thinks it's our money just because he transferred his wages straight to my bank when he got paid for general day to day things we needed, he always asked for some back towards the end of the week which I obviously gave him ( I also work myself) and now he says I'm pushing everybody away when it's only him I'm pushing away as there is no love there for him anymore. He still lives here and won't move out until proof of child benefit is going on his bank for our 2 older children who want to live with him 😭 and a claim can take 12 weeks, I'm at a lose on what to do as I can't live like this till then?

Can't you leave? Or set up a standing order for the child benefit?

Can you leave him? Take some steps to resolve it

I think lending your mate £20 is a red herring (from him) - it's a small amount and it sounds like you've done it before and I presume he pays it back? Also, the CB is a red herring as surely you can transfer the money to him until it's sorted? I assume you have proof that the change has been submitted?
I had a quick read of your other thread. Is the tenancy in your name only? Have the council indicated that he'll get social housing or will he have to rent privately? If you claim housing benefit, will you be capped to 2 bedrooms and if so, can you afford it?

Yes I have lent him money before and he always pays me back because if he didn't I wouldn't of lent it again, i could transfer him the cb money but its not proof as it would say my name not cb. I am the sole tenant and everyone else is sub tenant, we went through the same thing a few years ago and they only offered him a 1 bedroom flat and that's what he thinks will happen this time. I don't claim housing benefit and the rent gets paid every week as I work.

If your older two children are going to live with your ex, does he need proof of CB going to him to apply for social housing? Without it, I assume he will be offered a one bed flat?

It will take time to get right. Your older children need a proper home to go to and there is no point your ex moving to a one bed flat then having to move again.

There are extremely long waiting lists for social housing across the county. How is your area?

Yes I've looked into it and he needs proof of cb and take birth certificates think my 13 year old daughter has decided to stay with me during school term. We live in a 3 bed now so ideally if the kids are to stay with him school hols etc... He will need a 3 bed and yes they only offer 1 bed flats if no children, he's looked into other housing associations with nothing available it's definitely going to be the long haul and we at least need to be civil for the kids sake if we still living together.

If the kids are staying with you term time, he won't be offered anything more than a one bed flat and you shouldn't sign the cb over to him.

Unless he can afford to rent a place that has the space for the kids to stay, I don't think the plan is in anyway viable.