Nostalgic, I keep Looking Back

[Mermaidwaves]

I'm feeling sad tonight, maudlin and nostalgic. Separated two years now from my exH, very much sadly single and recently moved to a lovely new place. So why am I sat feeling tearful and longing for my old place and my old life with exH? I KNOW I need to look forwards and not backwards so why can't I do it? I miss the familiarity of my home and marriage and dont want this bright new future I hoped for....what's wrong with me?

Because sometimes we grieve at unexpected points in our lives. It's the disappointment of moving to the new place as it's not where you hoped to be.
Maybe you've not settled into your new place and truly experienced the wonders of being in charge of the remote and being starfish in the bed!
You've been knocked out of familiarity. It takes time. Sob your heart out with wine etc. It's ok to do that too. It gets easier.

You've only "recently moved" - that's quite scary & it's natural to look back to a time when you were settled and in familiar surroundings. You're only human. But you've done this for good reasons & you will settle here. It just takes time which, is annoying when you want it to be lovely right now please! Sorry, I've made that sound as though you're being childish which you're not.I'm just trying to describe how I know I've felt when I've moved somewhere new. There's no getting round the fact that it'll take time. But it is a lovely life in a lovely place that you've chosen so that happiness will come

Bless you!
It's natural to have those feelings, especially when you are single - it's easy to look back with rose-tinted glasses or cherry-pick the best memories/moments.
It's ok to grieve or be upset, but it will pass.

Thankyou all I do definitely look back with rose tinted glasses at my marriage and it wasnt a happy one, but it was familiar and I knew it and I hate change! My new home is better but I dont feel safe here yet if that makes sense. I do agree that I'm grieving my old life, it's so hard!

Ooh I’m doing exactly the same about my own relationship that ended 2 years ago. Grief hits unexpectedly I find.

I found myself looking back through an old photo album of our life together and getting very sad, even though the relationship really wasn't a good one in many ways.
Apparently the secret to happiness is to desire what you already have, so I started to put together photos of my new life and lovely new home and this has helped a little to reframe the situation.
It's so easy to look back with rose tinted glasses but we must work to challenge that view as it's probably not very accurate!