What's the best thing about divorcing a cheater?

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Lots of things but one thing standing out is that I can have colour in my home decoration now. Everything was so grey and white and 'top end' and clean before. I don't have much money now but searching through charity shops has given me so much joy.

I am sending you some bright pink, OP

Ah yes, first thing I did even before my alcoholic h moved out was paint the toilet room pink

Really strange how I immediately decided on pink for my bedroom curtains.

The best thing is that you know what's real and not real in your own life. That can never be underestimated.

HollowTalk
No more second guessing
No more anxiety
No more lies
No more knots in your stomach
No more questioning why you were not enough
No more disrespect
No more obsessing about the ow regardless of whether you have ever laid eyes on her or not
No more trauma at having to be civil and romantic with someone who tore your heart out
No more accepting less than what you deserve
No more having to put on an act in front of family and friends
No more excessive drinking, smoking, other addiction to numb the pain (the minute I left my stbexh, I was able to get through the day without these vices)

I could breathe again.

Your peace is worth more than anything else in this world. I only wish more people understood this.

Massive reduction in anxiety and improvement in my mental health and happiness.

I was a bit scared I'd be sad or lonely or that I'd miss him - not a bit of it.

Weight lifted, best thing I ever did.

Turned his built in wardrobe into a shoe cupboard

@Asifiwouldletyoubreakme hahaha that made my inner witch cackle

Not being answerable to anyone and realising sorry and love sometimes isn't enough.
I am sometimes lonely but the stomach churning anxiety was way way worse

Meeting someone else and having a real relationship based on love and trust

Marrying my current DH and always knowing that when he says he is somewhere, he is actually there, every every time.

Sideorder and Starrynight
Your posts give much hope! I would like to meet someone in the future.

Prior to leaving stbexh, I worried that I would be on my own forever due to being middle aged, having two dc and not having made it financially. I wondered which man would want opt for me. I later realised I would rather be on my own than remain a wreck of a woman in a loveless marriage. That even if I remained alone, I would have peace.

I honestly thought I would never meet anyone else again. But my new partner is amazing and a real eye opener to how a relationship should actually be rather than running round after one person all the time at detriment to myself

Not being married to a cheater is quite a big side benefit

Massive improvement in mental health and self respect because I'm no longer compromising my own values. My friends say I am me again. When I was with him, I couldn't be angry with him without also being angry with myself for accepting the situation. Now I like myself. When together, I thought I hated my house, now it's a home. I laugh more. The benefits don't all arrive overnight, they grow over time.

So many amazing things about getting shot of a cheater.

You don't have to question your thoughts any more or be gaslit or wonder where they are, who that text was from, what are they doing now, why are they late home - any of that shit.

You can have your house the way YOU want it and spread out in your bed that is now liar- free!

You can have peace of mind at last. That one is priceless.