Will I find meaningful love?

[lookingforlove99]

I am 37 and looking for love. For the first time in a while, I am starting to feel curious about dating again. I went through a long, long time of feeling jaded and cynical, but maybe it's the autumnal weather, I am starting to think more positively. Does he exist? I don't believe in 'the one' and I've had my share of disappointing and pointless commitment phobic men. But surely, there are interesting, engaging men, capable of a meaningful relationship? Or am I going to come crashing down with disappointment with the wading pool of awful men left on the shelf?

Impossible to say. Are you interested in having a family/children?

I know a few nice enough guys who stayed single until nearly 40. Not without their issues though - poor health, awful exes, not conventionally attractive, obese..but if you can look past that then yes, you might still find a gemstone in the rough.

Not easy, became single at 36, been dating on and off ever since. I'm 50 now, even less chance as I'm wearing quite well for my age, whereas most single men either aren't, or have baggage, or players. It bothers me less these days, happy had my son and love my dog, had some fab sex over the years - would like more, but it's slim pickings out there, rare is the chemistry.
On the plus side, was easier to get dates late 30's to early 40's than it is now - ones you'd fancy at any rate, and if you want kids, I remember lots of men in their late 30's to 40's seemed to be keen for it - I wasn't, had been there, done that.

I was just thinking this . I was married for 25 years. No intimacy.
Then had a great sexual relationship for 5 years which was shit in every other way.

Been single now 2 years. Would love to find a connection with someone again but not hopeful really. I'm 49 and a bit battered.

Hi Op,

Totally understand where you're coming from but it's important to understand what you're looking for: just to date/someone to share life with or to get entangled (marriage/children)?

I was divorced aged 36 and was spat out on to the dating market. It was horrific. Unlike @Opentooffers I found the men in my 'loose' age range 35-45 to be unattractive/ full of ambiguity/vagueness/didn't want anything serious (been there done that with mortgages/ex wives children). It was depressing. Really bleak.

I then had what I can describe as a 'situanship' with someone 12 years younger than me who was supposed to be just a one night stand; he was lovely, full of energy and life, we got on amazingly, but we were at different life stages. I wanted a child (I was 37/38 at this point) and he didn't.

To cut a long story short, I did IVF with a sperm donor aged 39 and am currently 32 weeks pregnant. I'm very fortunate. I remember distinctly thinking: I could end up childless (which I didn't want) and still keep looking for a partner, or I could explore solo parenting now (and really looking at my age I was at the tail end of my fertility - whatever MN may have you believe - it isn't ideal from a biological perspective).

I want that connection/chemistry. Casual sex for most women is quite easy to obtain, but it does get tiresome after a while and it still doesn't really fulfil the need of an emotional connection.

What are your thoughts on children/solo parenting?? It's possible to meet someone at any age, but as other posters have pointed out, it is slim pickings.

Well, it seems like it's going to be tough. I'm looking for a husband and to start a family.

@lookingforlove99

Well, it seems like it's going to be tough. I'm looking for a husband and to start a family.

Have you had any fertility checks done? It will if anything provide you with some information about your current fertility status