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Abusive message from dating site

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Shehasadiamondinthesky · 25/10/2021 20:31

I was astounded to get home and find an incredibly abusive message from a man on a dating forum thought I had left. I must have still had a profile up there.
I decided a while ago dating sites weren't for me and deleted all of my profiles except it seems this one.
A whole page of A4 rant about how "bitches" like me think they are too good for men and being stuck up and rude ad nauseam, such vitriol.
I had a look at his profile and he is short, fat and bald and much older than I specified so no I wouldn't have gone on a date with him anyway.
I tried to write a message back to say I meant to pull my profile but it seems he had written that and flounced off the site in a strop Grin
What a pathetic man child.

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Original poster
Shehasadiamondinthesky · 25/10/2021 20:32

He's apparently tried to contact me a few times and I hadn't answered.

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SleepingBunnies21 · 25/10/2021 20:33

Bye Felipe.

There are thousands of them, actually hundreds of thousands.

SleepingBunnies21 · 25/10/2021 20:35

tried to write a message back to say I meant to pull my profile but it seems he had written that and flounced off the site in a strop

You shouldn't have bothered trying to write anything back. Why should you have yk explain anything to an abusive bitter woman hater.

Getbehindme · 25/10/2021 20:35

Report his profile though. Ugh.

torquewench · 25/10/2021 20:43

Gosh. I wonder why he's single? He sounds like a real catch, every girl's dream, making a romantic approach like that Angry

RainbowBriteUk · 25/10/2021 21:08

Ha ha. I had a few of these myself. Most recently, one man messaged me five times in the space of a few hours without me replying, his last one asking if he'd done something to upset me. I told him that he should chill, not be so needy and have a bit of patience. He blocked me.

PinotPony · 25/10/2021 21:11

What a pathetic loser.

I had a chap tell me I was a "full blown racist c*nt" because I ignored his first message asking if I was into pissing. There's some real charmers out there...

corlan · 25/10/2021 21:17

It's male entitlement in action isn't it? I had a guy message me a couple of times. I didn't reply as I wasn't interested.Then he sent me an angry message berating me for being a 'timewaster' Confused

ChampagneCommunist · 25/10/2021 21:34

Not just dating - I had an email at work today telling me I was a muppet wasting my life

DuchessOfDisaster · 25/10/2021 21:39

@PinotPony

What a pathetic loser.

I had a chap tell me I was a "full blown racist c*nt" because I ignored his first message asking if I was into pissing. There's some real charmers out there...

I'm sorry I know I shouldn't laugh but that has given me the best laugh of the day!
Lucyccfc68 · 25/10/2021 21:41

The only response he should have got is F**k off.

FOJN · 25/10/2021 22:05

I tried to write a message back to say I meant to pull my profile

Why are earth did you feel the need to take time out of your day to respond to such a vile individual, as a PP said, "fuck off" is the appropriate response and I wouldn't have wasted my energy typing it.

You need to report him not give him direct attention.

samesign · 25/10/2021 22:08

Some men think just because they like your picture they seem to think they are entitled to you and get rude when you're not interested. Try and not let it get to you, he knows nothing about you report and block him.

PermanentTemporary · 25/10/2021 22:16

This is why, unfortunately, I learned to just ignore most approaches. Because men think they are entitled to my response, and they're not; and if I responded said a polite no, they reacted as if having noticed me was an insult to their pride. There's a lot of men on dating sites who make it strikingly easy to see why they're single.

CecilieRose · 25/10/2021 22:22

@RainbowBriteUk

Ha ha. I had a few of these myself. Most recently, one man messaged me five times in the space of a few hours without me replying, his last one asking if he'd done something to upset me. I told him that he should chill, not be so needy and have a bit of patience. He blocked me.
It's weird how so many of the abusers and narcissists out themselves so early on, isn't it? Last time I was dating, I replied to someone's message in my lunch break and then picked up my phone at 6pm to a stream of increasingly abusive messages asking why I had 'left him hanging'. I was.....working. Imagine thinking you're so important that a complete stranger needs to reply to you immediately.
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Shehasadiamondinthesky · 25/10/2021 22:24

Old incel I expect. So many awful people out there. Anyway I did report him and shut down my own profile.

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WTF475878237NC · 25/10/2021 22:25

Good for you.

Tangletester · 25/10/2021 22:29

Sounds like an Incel.

ginislife · 25/10/2021 22:58

I had one who reported me on PoF for apparently being a lying married bitch who spent all day on the site and then delete my profile when my husband comes home. I've been divorced over 30 years and had only exchanged about 5 messages with him - none of which could have given him that impression. Completely barking mad - and had then blocked me !!! I got a warning from admin for violating the rules !!! 😂😂

Toadmystery44 · 26/10/2021 00:02

Encountered a few entitled men on dating sites

  1. Messaging a guy. He cancelled first date due to illness. Arranged a other date. I didn’t text him one day. Next day I got a ranting text telling me I was a gold digger and a serial dater who plays games. All because I didn’t text a guy I never met for 1 day. However I sent the last message and he didn’t reply. But he purposely didn’t text me to see if I care about him, but died t play games.
  1. Guy texted loads on the site. Replied as had a spare hour. Then went out. He called 7 times from the site. Told him I was out and call in a few hours. 10 more calls from him. When I answered he started telling me off for not being available. Blocked
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