Rutherwyke, in January you wrote about this unstable relationship. Posters cautioned that you had jumped from one disastrous relationship to another.
You had a phone relationship with your Partner (an old flame) from February-July 2020, and you filed for divorce from your abusive Ex in June of that year. Later, issues arose when P would act like a single man when out with you—flirting with an OW and getting her number, and, another time, receiving repeated calls from an OW and messaging her ‘xx’ when you left the room. You also displayed faithless behavior by sexting an OM for a few weeks before having a word with yourself and stopping.
During this train wreck, your Ex was tracking, stalking and hacking you, for which he was arrested and forbidden to come near you. He sent your sexts to his sister, who forwarded them to your P.
By January both of you mistrusted the other. On top of that, you were his big secret, as he was divorcing but still lived in the family home.
You received wise advice to take time out from relationships, strengthen your self-esteem, and create a stable life with your children. It is troubling that you instead became further invested in this man who is not equally invested. It sounds like he is using you for sex and child care now that you’ve uprooted your family and become more convenient. As you say, it’s all about him.
You don’t have to settle for so little, Rutherwyke. The previous advice still applies. Walk away from this relationship and work on your boundaries. Your children are learning from your example. 