Should I end the relationship?

[Sunnytub]

A couple of nights ago I was arguing with my bf, I’ll admit I was going on. He asked to be quiet and bc I wouldn’t he got the bed covers, wrapped them round my head and tried to suffocate me. I tried to get free but couldn’t so had to wait until he stopped. He soon let go but I was terrified. He said he didn’t intend to hurt me but I didn’t know that and genuinely thought I was going to die. He said he just wanted me to shut up. The following day he made light of it when he saw my best friend and asked her if I’d told her what he’d done (I had already). I now wonder if I am wrong to feel so upset and frightened or is that his tactic - to down play it?

Yes you should end it. He has physically assaulted you in a frankly sinister way and now he is gaslighting. Sorry OP that thus happened to you.

This is so far from normal behaviour I'm wondering if it's real, to be honest.

Giving you the benefit of the doubt that it is, leave now and don't look back. I'm fairly easy going in relationships (by Mumsnet standards at least) but that would be a very hard no for me.

Oh wow. That’s a deal breaker! He physically assaulted you because you didn’t comply with his demand to be quiet. He should have walked away, or better still, engaged in a thoughtful conversation. Those were his ONLY options. And then he tried to reframe the assault by making light of it to your best friend, as you no doubt would have discussed it with her. He has assaulted you and attempted to take away your right to discuss the assault with a trusted friend. I hope you will seriously reconsider this relationship.

Thank you for your replies. You’ve confirmed what I was thinking and feel sick tbh as I think I’ve tried to down play it as the reality of what he did is just too horrid. I thought his telling my friend was a gaslighting tactic and he’s shown quite a few other traits too of this kind. I feel a fool for allowing him to treat me like this as to most that know me they would see me as a strong, confident person. He is also well-known and liked so I’m not sure anyone would believe me (not that I intend to tell anyone what happened). I have some serious decisions to make.