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Online Dating Question

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horrorhalloween · 24/10/2021 18:03

I went on a date on Friday and things seemed to go well. I have left the ball in his court, so to speak, about meeting up again.

How long would you give it for him to message after the date to know he's interested? A week?

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Babyghirl · 24/10/2021 18:23

@horrorhalloween
He's prop thinking the same thing as you, I would give him a wee text, had a great night on Friday night hope to do it again soon, if he texts you back great if not then you know it's time to move on.

ExcitedtoTry · 24/10/2021 18:24

Have you heard from him at all? In my experience it’s normal to hear from them with 24hrs.

jelly79 · 24/10/2021 18:24

I would normally expect a text that night to say 'had a nice time or lovely to meet you' at least. Or the next day....

jelly79 · 24/10/2021 18:25

Agree with PP just send a message asking if he fancies meeting up again :)

Brightmagic2021 · 24/10/2021 18:25

I think I would assume he wasn’t interested after a week. I agree with pp re 24 hours.

Eesha · 24/10/2021 18:28

They always text immediately if keen. If not, then I would move on

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horrorhalloween · 24/10/2021 18:30

We did the had a nice time messaging after the date and there was talk of meeting up again while we had our date walk. There hasn't been anymore contact after that. I just wondering how much longer to give it.

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ExcitedtoTry · 24/10/2021 18:32

Ah in that case give it the week & see if anything comes of it.

I would carry on dating others though.

Yummypumpkin · 24/10/2021 18:35

2-3 days. Personally I wouldn't reach out but wait.

todaysdilemma · 24/10/2021 18:37

I don't take it as a good sign if I don't hear back within 24 hours after a good first date. And while I have no problems asking a man out as the first date, I wouldn't for a second - because I'd want to gauge how proactive he can be, and how interested he really was. I would let them know I had a great time and am happy to do it again - but if that doesn't give them enough indication of my interest to book in a second date asap, I assume not interested enough.

FlamesEmbersAshes · 24/10/2021 18:39

A couple of days max. If a man is interested, IME he is keen to meet up again.

FlamesEmbersAshes · 24/10/2021 18:40

As you had the date on Friday, I’d have expected a text by now if he wanted to see you again. Personally, I’d shelve this one.

todaysdilemma · 24/10/2021 18:41

@horrorhalloween

We did the had a nice time messaging after the date and there was talk of meeting up again while we had our date walk. There hasn't been anymore contact after that. I just wondering how much longer to give it.
In that case, I'd carry on dating others. If he hasn't continued the conversation these few days, and hasn't booked in a date yet, it would tell me he's not all that bothered. If he had really had a fantastic time, he'd be thinking of me, wanting to talk to me or see me, or at least not wanting me to think he's lost interest.

If you have to question his interest after the first date, I think you know the answer already. When someone is keen, you know it.

Sonaftersonafterson · 24/10/2021 18:58

I gauge it more on... do they continue to chat via messaging after the date? Still enthusiastic... still wanting to chat more. If they go silent, theres your answer. Men tend to reach out and grab what they want!!

Comingup · 24/10/2021 21:28

Doesn't take long to send a text. I'd be shelving this one I think.

MoreStuffingMatron · 25/10/2021 08:52

No text, move on to next!

Eesha · 25/10/2021 15:02

i agree with @todaysdilemma, no issue with pushing for an initial date but I don't want to chase seconds. I had a date last night and whilst we exchanged texts on having a lovely time meeting each other, no mention of a second date so I'm assuming it's a no chemistry thing!

Suprima · 25/10/2021 15:07

@horrorhalloween

I went on a date on Friday and things seemed to go well. I have left the ball in his court, so to speak, about meeting up again.

How long would you give it for him to message after the date to know he's interested? A week?

God no. 24 hours, max.

If he’s a texty type (usually a generational thing, under 40s) it’s quite likely if he is keen-as-mustard, that he’ll be texting you to see if you got home safe and pinning you down again for another date that evening.

People are busy and they have lives- but if he’s not texting you pretty bloody quick to arrange date 2- he certainly doesn’t have those giddy butterflies for you. You deserve giddy butterflies who can’t wait to see you again.

Suprima · 25/10/2021 15:07

@horrorhalloween

We did the had a nice time messaging after the date and there was talk of meeting up again while we had our date walk. There hasn't been anymore contact after that. I just wondering how much longer to give it.
Your date walk….?

You went on a walk?

Eesha · 25/10/2021 15:13

@Suprima so true about the butterflies thing!

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horrorhalloween · 25/10/2021 17:33

@Suprima Yes, drinks and then a quick walk.

Thanks for all your replies!

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JustAnother0ldMan · 25/10/2021 18:31

When I was dating earlier this year, if date 0 went well, I would be in contact next day to get something in the diary,
If he has waited a week, it’s probably not going to happen, sorry.

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