Another online dating one

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In the last few weeks I have had various conversations with men from dating sites. They have asked me out and made arrangements for date time place. Then without fail, they cancel.
Presumably they got a better offer but it’s just so utterly disheartening

Sorry to hear that OP. Online dating can be soul destroying. You could give yourself a break from it or try a different site where people may be less flaky.

That;s actually why I stopped using them. I lost count of the time-wasters and the final straw was when I was actually stood up. I felt like it was a vicious cycle of chatting to someone, arranging to meet then they either disappear or cancel.
I get that they may get a better offer but surely internet dating is dating a few people before you perhaps stick with one?
I suspect there are lots of men who are just playing at it and have no intention of meeting.

The most despairing/distressing/depressing time of my life was between the ages of 36-37/38 'online dating trauma'. I was divorced at 36 and spat out on to the dating market - and what a wake up call. Nobody wanted anything serious having come out themselves out of stressful divorces/already had children/didn't want to cohabit again. I left the apps for good in 2019 (did end up having a 'situanship' with someone for 2 years) but after that did my own thing (solo mother by choice via a sperm donor) in 2021.

What sort of relationship are you after? Serious/long term (cohabitation/marriage/children?)

OP this unfortunately is what it's like in my experience, time wasters, people with so many issues, ghosters. Some just like te chase.. one they get you to agree to a date, mission accomplished, they go awol. I know some strike lucky but I can't imagine how.

I’m older so not looking for marriage kids etc, just dating sex company
I’ve never head my head messed with like this
Fortunately mainly thanks to mumsnet I know it’s them not me

Atleast they let u know they're cancelling. What if u turned up and no one was there.