I have come to feel very anxious around my dd who is currently living away from me. Anything I say that is construed as wrong in her or her dad's eyes and I'm told I won't see her again. I can't say anything right. I'm told I'm controlling for wanting to know what time she is visiting. They both say she'll run away and put herself at risk if I insist on her seeing me. She's 14 and appears to have become her abusive dad's puppet. She says similar things to what he did when we were together and echoes what he says now. She won't accept any boundaries and that's why she's not living with me. She does as she pleases at her dad's. He's not there much and she can do what she wants and doesn't have to consider anyone else. He says I've caused her untold emotional harm. He was abusive to me in every possible way and thankfully had an affair and left many years ago. He has had more dc since then and is not with their mother now but lived with her for years. He sees his other dc once a week. He's now with someone else. His only way of getting to me is through Dd and she has learnt to play the part perfectly. I feel so lost and like I've lost my daughter for good.
I don't know what I want from posting I'm just so sad today as there seems no end in sight.