I just wanted to add some intrigue 
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And I wanted another half day to check that things didn't just work for one day (they didn't. Still working!)
So a bit of background here, and I apologise in advance for the long explanation... this is truly how my brain works:
As a child and adolescent I was always told I was weird. In my late teens I did a lot of work to try to "become more normal" and make friends. By a painful, long and arduous process of copying other women, practising and a lot of trial and error I did manage to become more social and less "weird" so I actually made good friends. It was not until I was in my late 20s that I read about Asperger's syndrome in girls and I ticked all the boxes. It would have helped at a time to know why I had been finding it so hard, however by the time I read about Aspie women I felt comfortable with my lower level of outward weirdness and with the level of functionality i had achieved.
One of the consequences of my almost complete inability to pick up social "clues" was never knowing when people were telling me or doing something that hurt my feelings on purpose, or if there were other reasons (they were actually being nice/they had had a bad day and was not personal/they were direct people, like me, giving me valuable feedback).
In order to deal with it, I made the conscious decision to believe that what people did or said to me was NOT done/said on purpose to hurt me, regardless whether it was or not. In my analytical mind this made sense, because:
a) If I felt hurt and the person had not meant to hurt me, there was no point in feeling hurt. Lose-lose.
b) If I felt hurt, and the person intended to hurt me, then the person would feel validated and go on hurting me and/or other people. So I would lose too.
c) If I didn't feel hurt and the person hadn't intended to hurt me, then it was a win-win for both, and no misunderstandings.
d) If the person actually wanted to hurt me but I refused to be hurt, then I would be happy and the person intending to hurt me would not have achieved their purpose. So win-win again.
I am sure this sounds very complicated for a more "normal" person for whom social interactions are easy and instinctive, but for someone like myself this simple technique helped me increase my confidence and feel stronger socially, and avoid many potential misunderstandings. I still benefit from this decision today.
So I treated the "awkwardness issue" with the guy I am dating the same way. I decided that, if I wanted to give this potential relationship a chance to work, I needed to believe that what he told me was true: that he indeed felt as confused as me, that he was very keen on me emotionally and sexually, but our mutual hesitance was giving both of us the impression that the other person was not keen, and this had created a kind of "mental block" on both sides.
So my plan was this: in order to try to overcome the awkwardness and break the block, both him and I would agree to behave as if we were 100% sure that the other person was totally keen on us and found us incredibly attractive. I know this is right for me (I really fancy him and find him hot as hell).
But I did not know if he was feeling the same way. So applying my logic, if he was telling the truth, and he was keen and fancied me, then:
a) If it was a mental block created by our mutual hesitance (and my Aspie's traits giving him the wrong idea, i.e. uncommon lack of eye contact, tone of voice, etc) then this trick may work and break the block, giving both of us confidence to feel less awkward.
b) If it was a true physical/sexual incompatibility, then the awkwardness would not go away. So we would break up, but at least we'd know we had given it another try.
If, on the other hand, the guy was lying and blaming the awkwardness on me when it was something he was causing or a weird way to control me, then:
a) He would probably not agree on carrying out my idea, or
b) He would humour me and try, but the awkwardness would not go anywhere because it was him causing it after all.
In whichever case, the outcome would be better than breaking up and never knowing if this could have been saved.
So I went and had a chat with him and told him about my idea. I expected him to find it childish, or stupid, however he surprised me by being really happy that I had not decided to just stop seeing him (which was what he thought I would do) and he was really keen to try the "plan". I asked him when he wanted to start. He smiled and said, "why don't we just start right now, what would you do to a guy you really fancy and who fancies you like mad?". So I basically sat on his lap and started kissing him. And he responded straight away, and for the first time in over a month we had a bloody good kissing session, which ended up in a different kind of session right there on the kitchen bench. Followed by a great day out together and him staying at mine and another bloody awesome - and not awkward - session of hot sex on my sofa. And the next morning this proved not to be just a 24 hour thing, but we continued the non-awkward process of catching up on all the sex we had not done before.
And I can hear you loud and clear, @EvenMoreFuriousVexation, and if I was the one reading this I would also think "how convenient and how unbelievable". Even in my best projections I didn't believe it would work like this. I thought, best case scenario, the awkwardness will get less and less. But nope, this was instantaneous.
I fully expect some of you not to believe this story. But it happened.
If any other Aspie (or non-Aspie) woman out there could get some inspiration from it for similar or other type of awkward/uncomfortable situations, then some posters not believing me will be more than worth it. No snake oils or website subscriptions needed 