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Would you...

11 replies

EC1567 · 22/10/2021 22:08

Stay with someone if they seemed to have a "camgirl" addiction and you were 23 weeks pregnant with not enough money to live alone?

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Pinkbonbon · 22/10/2021 22:22

I'd look into what benefits I'd be entitled to and find a way out whatever it took. Before the baby was born and I'd be bloody stuck from exhaustion and hormones.

Have you family you can rely on?

TurnUpTurnip · 22/10/2021 22:24

No I wouldn’t

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EC1567 · 22/10/2021 22:44

@TurnUpTurnip

No I wouldn’t

What would you do?

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TurnUpTurnip · 22/10/2021 22:46

Leave, if you are pregnant you would get help with housing and benefits, I couldn’t put up with that

ExcitedtoTry · 22/10/2021 22:54

It’s not an addiction for starters. Let’s be real.

I would leave because my child needs good role models. Move in with parents if you can.

FancySomeChips · 22/10/2021 22:55

Not an addiction, he’s just an arse.
Leave, work on yourself worth.

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EC1567 · 22/10/2021 22:56

@ExcitedtoTry

It’s not an addiction for starters. Let’s be real.

I would leave because my child needs good role models. Move in with parents if you can.

He had therapy for it previously, just seems he's gone back to it despite knowing how I feel about it.

I'm fine with porn but for me, camgirls are different to porn

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Youknownothingsnow · 22/10/2021 23:00

I couldn’t accept it. The real question is not can you afford to go, it’s can you afford to stay. The toll on your mental health and the impact on your child. How do you feel about the situation?

You can leave and build a life you want free from thinking about his problems and addiction. It sounds to me like you have given it a shot an it’s failed so move on to happiness.

ExcitedtoTry · 22/10/2021 23:00

Having therapy doesn’t make it an addiction. This is a choice.

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EC1567 · 22/10/2021 23:03

We don't really ever have sex maybe 3 or 4 times a year max -
Do you think this could be why he's into the camgirls?

Compensating for what he doesn't have?

He'll be an amazing Dad but I can't get over that he's got back into it

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Thingsdogetbetter · 23/10/2021 09:42

It's much more likely that you don't have sex much because his fetish is camgirls, than the other way round.

He can be an amazing dad without being in a relationship with you. You need to check out all benefits you are entitled to, and how much child support he will have to pay, before you panic about not being able to survive financially without him.

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