OMG why can't she see it?

[PackedintheUK]

Friend has been messed about by this cheat for more than a decade

They were "together" for three years until she discovered he was married, the day he was supposed to move in with her. I genuinely believe she knew nothing about that, she was completely floored by it.

Went back to his wife and they didn't see each other for a while. In the meantime he has a child with wife.

They get back together, wife knows all about and he's going to leave, but wife is ill, child is ill, complications at work mean he's not financially able to leave, it's not quite the right time etc etc

Several years later he has officially "moved in". Except he never has the child to stay and he's now spending several nights a week at a sick elderly aunt's house to provide care.

This apparently demonstrates that he has a good caring heart, despite everything...

I think he’s still with the wife, and his 2/3 nights of “living with” your friend are “nights away for work”

Does she also believe that the earth is flat?

No amount of telling her will convince her, she needs to work it out for herself. It's hard.

@Emmelina

I think he’s still with the wife, and his 2/3 nights of “living with” your friend are “nights away for work”

Of course he is. I know that, but she apparently has no suspicions at all. She trusts him...

‘Sick elderly aunt’ my arse!

She's got very deep rooted problems and she's obsessed by him.
Absolutely nothing you can do.
You can't reason with madness
Back away from her before it drains the living daylight out of you

he's now spending several nights a week at a sick elderly aunt's house to provide care.

Oh bless him what a wonderful wonderful person he is, Friend should volunteer to help out some evenings

Sadly maybe she feels her self worth is as high as being the ow and no higher...
Suggest he gets no mention whatsoever in your friendship... That way you aren't involved in the fake perfect relationship.. Just be her mate. Bloody hell she needs one..

It must be awful for him to care for his elderly aunt alone. You should suggest your friend prepares a meal for the aunt and offer to go with him to help share the load.
After all, she's practically family after this length of time.

Aunt does exist, friend has met her. One of the only family members she does know. I'm sure it's just a coincidence that the only relative she's met is one who doesn't know who anyone is....

I think the best case scenario here is that he's shagging his sick, elderly aunt.

😂😂😂