DH and I have friends through a mutual sporting interest. We are aware that one of them, who is a mature (in years) retired professional has just divorced after a long and very unhappy marriage. All divorce matters were settled amicably and they are both much better off without each other. I'll call him James. He joined a dating site for the over 50's and has recently been talking about his experiences to the group. He says he knocked 3 years off his age as otherwise it would put people off. He has met two potential partners, who contacted him at much the same time. The first lives closest, he says he does not find her the most attractive but he has begun staying over with her and intimates this is a sexual relationship. The second one he finds very attractive and they get on like a house on fire, he is driving quite a distance to see her during the week, but this is not yet a physical relationship (he makes a point of saying he goes home when he sees her) He has invited her on holiday with him later in the year and she has suggested he joins her for a long weekend.
I'm in no way concerned about judging him as an individual, he is a pleasant person, good company and i'd always seen him as the "perfect gentleman" type, so i just fee a little surprised he thinks this is OK and I wonder if it is me that is out of kilter with modern ideas.