Do i distance myself or reach out for the last time?

[cherrylol77]

Seeing this guy and it was going great, seeing each other most days in the week and he said he missed me, told his friends about me. Then one day things felt off and he was just acting different. He took longer to message and hasn't asked to meet in a few days. I don't know if i should distance myself, confront him or just ask him to meet up but i don't know. I really like him and want to make things work so any advice would be great!

That sounds very intense. I’d back off and see if he contacts you.

How long has this been going on? Relationship and his different behaviour.

In any case, talking about whatever is the issue should always be the first option.

Who sent the last message? If it was you, I wouldn't message again until I heard from him.

Let him ask to meet up. Back off slightly, match his efforts. If he is just sending you silly memes and low effort messages, reply with low effort.

Match the mans effort.

If he is asking how your day was and showing more interest that would be better. A man who wants you won't allow time to pass incase another man takes your attention. Unless he has some personal things going on in which case he should be communicating so. Don't fall for 'oh ive just been busy' no man is too busy if he likes you.

@Lweji

How long has this been going on? Relationship and his different behaviour.

In any case, talking about whatever is the issue should always be the first option.

I have known him for nearly over a year, but we starting seeing each other for about a month now. This behaviour started last Friday so nearly a week now... I would want to talk about it but I don't know how i would bring it up

Oh I hate these games - been there myself - all good in the beginning and then things go quiet and you start doubting yourself...he may be busy - he might be seeing someonelse. I would wait to see if you messages you

I would leave it. If he wanted more there would be more

Been there, done that- he’s met someone else, he’s basically ghosting you, instead of being a mature adult and telling you he doesn’t see you and him being together, he’d rather ignore you and make you think it’s your fault. Do not get in touch, if he wants to speak to you, he will

He's lost interest not up to you to chase him. I would stop wondering about him, if he was interested you wouldn't feel him backing off

Bless you - arrange to see friends and keep yourself busy - we all have busy enough lives as it is to be second guessing and hanging around for someone to message.

If yours was the last message then I'd leave it and see what happens. If he doesn't make contact, you have your answer (he's lost interest for whatever reason). If he makes contact, take it one step at a time. Does he seem interested? Ask about your day? Suggest arrangements? Follow through when he says he'll call?

It's a shame that some people don't have the decency to end things properly - either due to laziness or cowardice - and you're left guessing. If he's one of those people, you've dodged a bullet and will be better off without him.

If he hasn't contacted you since Friday, then I'd just move on.
If he's still in contact, but much less so, but tries to plan something for the weekend, then I'd chat with him then.

It's odd that it was a sudden thing, and pps may well be right that there's someone else.
Or is it possible he made all the effort and is trying to see if you're also keen?

Do you really want a relationship with a man who makes you feel like this?

Genuine question.

You may really want it to work but if he doesn’t feel the same it’s a non starter. I’d leave it.

Unequal relationships are miserable.