I don't really like any of my friends?

[eatingforfive]

Sorry for the dramatic title but it's summing up how I've been feeling for a while.

I'm a very outgoing person and have always had lots of friends, mainly from school who I've grown up with. Now however I'm the first one to have a DC and I feel like I have nothing actually in common with any of them. I'm realising more and more how my main friendship group is fragmented and bitchy and I feel like I haven't really found "my tribe" in life as it were. They're sn all girl group and have been toxic in the past.

Apologies if this sounds incredibly whiny but does anyone have any suggestions for how I can gently remove myself from this without making it a drama, and where I can meet new people?

I've got some new mum friends from various activities and baby groups; but I just don't feel like they're the friends for life sort.

I'm 40 and have still to find my tribe. I'm getting there.
I throughly I had firm friends at carousel stages of my life
Secondary school
Work
Parent hood.

Not many have gone the distance.

My life is more about me now my kids are tens, I feel like I'm older and wiser about people. I have my own enjoyments and am unabashed about meeting new people through these.

You've moved on, it happens, just stop messaging/texting and accepting invites.

Don't be too choosy, the mum friends may not be friends for life but they can certainly provide support for things right now.

I've always been on the periphery of things and not really into social groups snd it takes me a long time to make friends.

Slow fade.

Otherwise they'll notice and go into level 10 bitch mode.

Use being a parent as an excuse etc.

You can grow out of friends as you get older and your life changes.
Just distance yourself.
I was so close to my best friend from the age of 16 ( now in my late 40's) but she started to make really childish comments - some racist about the man I was dating which I found so offensive. She became suspicious when I said I could not afford a night out or go on holiday thinking I was with my partner instead but the truth was I just could not afford it. She then sent a vile whats app message saying I should think about how I speak to people - my tone of voice and language and how much I had upset her by not going on holiday - I was so shocked - we have not spoken since and the friendship is definately over.

I'm currently pregnant (32 weeks) but I'm a solo parent to be (via a sperm) donor, so no partner involved.

I'm the only person I know who had done this in real-life, my other female friends/acquaintances are either single or partnered (no children) in any case.

I am really trying to maintain my friendship group - I don't want to be alone, isolated with nobody to talk to (other than at NCT classes) I want a variety of friendships and want to talk about different things.

I'm not sure how old you are but I'm 39 and have found it really difficult to make new friends in my 30s.

I'd try and work on your friendships. Is it possible to see some friends individually rather than as a whole group?

I feel suffocated a little by my best mate. She messages all the time, regardless of what I'm doing. If I go on line and don't read her message, she then gets the arse. If I read her message but don't reply and then I'm on & off line (on the same day) but still don't reply, then she gets the arse. I've learnt to reply asap. She has more friends than me, but if she sees me online then she fishes to find out who I have been talking to. She asks me every day what I am doing that night. Not because she wants to meet up every night, its just general chat. When she doesn't have her daughters then I feel there is an expectation by her from me to keep her occupied on those child free days and nights. I have my own kids to look after and even though their dad is with them, he is useless and does nothing with them. I feel like I cant breathe without her knowing about it.

Anthium I did that x