Hey, I'm 25 my bf is also 25. I am pregnant with our daughter due in 2 weeks! We have been together just over 2 years. We decided to move in together prematurely at the start of lockdown. This went fine and we were really happy. He is really fun to be around and always makes me laugh. However tbh whenever we have a serious conversation he just kinda diffuses it and we just never really finish it. Like if I do want to talk to him about something serious he just kinda says something lighthearted and funny and we just never do and he turns it into a much smaller thing. Which to some extent is great but in other ways not so great. Tbh I kinda feel now I may have been not thinking about this as he was so great in other ways. I kinda feel now that we're just about to have a baby and we have a great physical connection and we have a lot in common and we get on so well together and have a lot of fun, but we lack that really deep emotional connection. Tbh I also think that we decided to have a baby without really discussing it properly and also in part as we moved in together so spontaneously and early in our relationship that we thought yeah this will all be great without properly thinking it through. He still makes me laugh but I am doubting whether having a child with him was right. I think maybe he is a bit immature. He hasn't really shown that much interest in the baby tbh and a couple of times he's had some big panic attacks and I know he's super nervous. Some times he has a big panic attack where he gets super nervous and stressed and says there is no way we can do it. But usually when I talk to him he's just like it'll be fine we'll muddle through and it is so frustrating I just want him to talk properly about his feelings. Not sure how I can get him to open up. Also he has been out on a night out on his own a few times and not got back till like 4am super drunk. I've talked to him about it and he just said well I'm not going to be able to do this in a few weeks am I so may as well make the most of it now. Like we've never really had to have serious conversations and I feel really like we need to and its not good and I don't really know how to with him. I know in lots of ways he'll be a great dad as he is great with kids in lots of ways and he would be great in terms of playing with them and going out for day trips, but in other ways I don't think he would. Not sure what I can really do and seriously doubting what the future with him holds which is not good given the circumstances! Also I am now considering whether to give the baby my surname. I feel really bad doing that to him and I haven't talked to him about it or his family but I feel like I want to have the same name as our child and also I am worried that maybe something will happen to us and then I won't be able to change it. Not sure if this is right or if I am being unfair and selfish here? I just feel like this is not where a relationship should be 2 weeks before having a baby.