Army reserves

[Boltonbabe]

Hi
Is anyone else married to someone who works FT long hours and also does the army reserves?

I work FT too long hours and have 3 kids 5-10. He is away again for 16 days and I'm struggling to cope

It's relentless the work and I'm up doing housework etc until 11pm and worn out

We have a cleaner and his parents came the middle weekend. But he doesn't seem to have a conscious about how this impacts me

I've been crying all day and struggling to hold job down as I'm just so tired.

I wanted to take A/l but couldn't at work as half term elsewheee and lots of people off.

Last time he did this I seriously considered ending it as so angry and resentful and called Samaritans (during lockdown he signed up and dumped everything on me for months on end).

Anyone else similar.

Have you actually told him that it just isn't OK.

I mean tbf, you shouldn't have to but sometimes ppl just don't think.

Have a frank conversation with him and tell him what you need from him. If he is not receptive or if he cannot pull his weight then dump him. And if you do, then don't be slow to leave the kids with him and take off on a holiday nown and again.

Infact, when he gets home, take a holiday yourself and give him a taste of what you went through.