Does he say these things for a reaction or actually believe them

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My stbxh came over at the weekend to have our dd for a couple of hours. Literally the minute he walked through the door he asked if he could put that football on because he didn't want to miss the second half.
I said yes but why didn't he watch the football and come after as dd would want to play with him and I presumed he was here to spend time with her.
He said he'd have it on in the background and that point I couldn't be bothered with an argument and said yes.
Thought that was it dropped until he said him coming to watch the football whilst having dd was no different to me coming home from work not playing with dd and going straight for a shower.
I was half way through a rant explaining why I come straight in for a shower when I stopped. Because I couldn't even believe I was having this conversation.
For context I'm a nurse, have always come straight home to get out of my uniform and have a shower, however this weekend I took the dog and baby straight out for a walk before having a shower.
I'm not sure even why I'm posting this, he's still making me feel like I'm mad and unreasonable and that I just don't/can't listen to his point of view.
Do other people have weird disagreements
Like this or am I unreasonable as he would have me believe

Just remember he is entitled to his opinion no matter how bizarre and uncommon they are, just as you are entitled to yours. Your don't have to agree on that, just smile and nod. Doesn't matter if he wants a reaction, just focus on whether you want to react. Good luck!

Why are you letting him stay in your house to see dd? Tell him to take her out in future

Why is he seeing her at your house? Why didn't you say no when he asked to turn on the football?

I wouldn’t facilitate his contact with his child in your house for a start. Then I would work on your boundaries so you can tell him to do one. He is a cheeky fucker.

Yeah sure, he’s entitled to his opinion, but he sounds like an absolute idiot. Of course you’re going to shower as a nurse with everything going on, and assuming you’re the RP you get a whole load more opportunities to play with DD. Sounds like he’s just deflecting to me.

He was having her here because he is staying with family and he said it was easier because all her stuff was here. He's waiting to sort out his own accommodation. I didn't say no to putting on the football on , because I knew he'd just up and leave and upset dd also I had to go to work so I wasn't going to be here

@itsmellslikepopcarn that's what I think too, but he makes me doubt everything thing I say and what I believe to be the truth. Of course he's entitled to his opinion I just didn't think the two were remotely comparable

@Blanca87 I would have happily told him to do one if it hadn't left me in such an awkward position with work. I'm sorting out alternative childcare at weekends so I don't have to be in this position again.

That’s good, hopefully it will reduce the exposure tp his fuckwittery. It’s shite that you had to tolerate his ridiculous comments so he doesn’t fuck you over with pulling out of his childcare responsibilities.