Always, always on his phone..

[Allypa]

Been with boyfriend 2 years.
We don't live together, both divorced. We see each other every 3 to 4 days for 3 to 4 days at a time. I sleep over at his because I don't have dc, he does.
Just recently, he is always, always on his phone. He texts, WhatsApp and emails all the time.
I appreciate he has a job, friends and life admin to sort, but he also has an exwife. It feels like invariably he is messaging her. They share 5050 custody of small kids so they message more or less daily.
I'm finding it really difficult.
I know its not anything lovey dovy because I've seen some message's and he's read others out when they've been arguing but I'm still jealous.
I literally feel sick once he gets his phone out.
He never tells me who he is messaging or talking too and I end up just sitting there till he's finished.
My exh didn't use a phone so I'm not used to this. Is this normal?
Are they all on their bloody phones?
Do I have a right to know who he is messaging?
I can't cope with this constant ball of anxiety in my stomach....

@Allypa

Just like that? Dump him , for being on his phone? No discussion after 2 years, just dump him ?

Yes, he is rude and inconsiderate. Surely you deserve better than this - sitting there while he communicates with other people .

It’s not for being on his phone though is it? For some reason you don’t feel secure with him lately.

I feel literally sick when he gets his phone out.

@Allypa, he is not lovely and caring. He is not being ‘present’ with you. He is ignoring you while investing most of his time/attention on his Ex and others, including perhaps the OnlyFans woman you’ve written about.

A few weeks ago he announced that he was joining OF “so he can see more of a woman he had seen on tiktok.” You wondered if this was much different than regular porn, which both of you use. Of course it is different because it’s paid interactive sex and the women can be contacted. You weren’t sure if this crossed a boundary for you because “at least she wouldn’t run away with him.”

Why on earth are you tolerating being diminished like this? You are sabotaging your life by settling for his utter crumbs. If you won’t walk away for good, at least limit your visits. You are absolutely NOT past your best, and you CAN build a rewarding life.

There is no need to text his ex that much