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Hi, I'm not actually a teenager although this thread will sound ridiculous!! DP complained that I never put any photos of him on Facebook/ Instagram and that he feels like a secret although my family and friends all definitely know about him and see him regularly!! There are photos on my social media of him but I don't put loads of photos as I can't bear that sort of thing! I use it to communicate with family and friends I don't see often or who live abroad. I don't know why I had to justify this to him but pointed out that he never puts any photos on of me! I really don't care but the whole conversation was ridiculous. He said he never posts anything but as I do post, the proportion of photos of him is not many. I realise this sounds utterly ridiculous but is he nuts, controlling?!!!

I don't know why I had to justify this to him but pointed out that he never puts any photos on of me!

Isn't funny how this was actually the first question I was going to ask you because I already had doubts that he had pics of you together on his own profile before I even got to this sentence!!

It's the equivalent of a man who won't wear a wedding ring but expects his partner to do it.

He just wasn't there when the photos were taken and then we didn't take any later as were talking to people. It wasn't intentional.

There were only photos of me and my children and parents not even with my sisters.

And not loads of photos, just 5 which were basically all the same shot.

TBH I can see his point. My DP very rarely posts anything on his SM, but whenever he did it always photos of his kids, or chatting with friends/colleagues, never anything about me.

He maintains that his previous posts about how much he loved his ex were pretty much done at gunpoint and that he would never post anything mushy but the old posts were still standing. It made me feel like he’s ashamed of me of something.

I would often have a profile pic of us together and would post pics from our joint holidays and memes on valentines etc but he’d only ever post about the kids, and had a profile pic from many years and several stone ago, which seemed like he was on the pull, and so in the end I thought what’s the point and stopped putting anything about him on there. After a big row I deleted him from FB and it’s actually quite refreshing not having to think about it all any more! If you stay with him I’d suggest not adding him again as it’s causing too much drama.