I think my husband might have been messaging a woman he met off a site he was using initially to view porn, then he admitted to paying an escort whose number he got from the site. He's admitted to having sex with the escort, but 100% denies any emotional element. Says it was just 'physical'. Says he loves me and would never have an affair.
I think he's denying the messaging because to admit to that would throw his 'physical' excuse out of the water.
I have memorised the mobile number of this woman but not sure what to do next. Should I get a new number and text her? I'm convinced she's either a casual hook-up or an escort but he says she's someone he used to work with, remotely, and didn't know what she looked like until he saw her WhatsApp profile pic.
The reason I don't think she's an ex colleague is because the tone of the messages are flirty without being lovey-dovey and do not refer to work at all.
She's contacted him a couple of times out of the blue. Once it pinged when we were together in the evening and his body language just froze and he ignored it for a while before reading it and saying nothing to me about it (I checked later and it was from her asking how he was, adding ????! after it as if to say 'where the hell have you been????!' ).
Another time she referred to him as keeping well behaved and out of trouble and he replied 'hopefully'. I asked him about this and he said he hasn't a clue what she meant and that he thinks she's lonely and that's why she talks to him.
What would you think? I don't know that much about escorts but I wonder if the less professional ones do engage in texting back and forth?