How do you end relationship when you're still in love?

[freddiemercury]

I'm in a relationship that I absolutely know isn't healthy...he's controlling and manipulative
I absolutely know I should end it...but despite being able to recognise it's not good for me and makes me unhappy a lot of the time...I do still love him and can't seem to find the strength to end it.
How do you convince your heart about what your head already knows??!!

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How do you feel about yourself op? Because you should always love you. How about leaving not because you love him less. But because you know you have to love yourself more.

Also, might be worth reading up on 'trauma bonds'. Think about it op, is there actually anything to love about him? Would you love a playground bully? The office bully? The psychopath on the news that killed his wife? They are all loathsome creatures. What you love is the mask they showed you in order to reel you in. It never existed. Let it go.

Really simply put: what is your financial situation? Where is your support network? Family/friends? If any of the above are non existent/or poor I can see why you're still in this awful situation (been in a similar myself so can recognise it).

I thought I'd loved my ex husband, but really I was in denial because the lack of finances/no support were keeping me tied to him. The second this got resolved, I left and started my new life (we'd already started divorce proceedings in the meantime).

Are you sure it's love, and not denial about your inability to cope on your own? You are the only one who knows the truth.

I'm sorry to hear you're in this situation.

Have your true counselling for yourself so that you can be more assertive with your boundaries? Don’t let him control and manipulate you. He’ll either change or leave himself if he can’t have a healthier relationships.

Thank you all so much. I have a really good support network with family and friends...and we do have children but tho they're obviously a huge consideration I do believe that children are better with happier parents. It's me...I just can't bring myself to make the break as the "good times" really are so lovely... it's almost as tho I think that one day it will always be good. I just can't bring myself to end it...as I would miss him so much