What do i do? *(Content Warning: concerns possible sexual abuse of minor)

[FfsAlexa]

Ive just found out that a person that lived with us for a few months, when i was 19, is a convicted sex offender and has assualted teenage boys. My 14 year old brother was also in the house at the time. I feel sick. My brother is married with a daughter now and going through a very difficult time. Im not sure if anything did happen. Although looking back at the behaviour of this man, he was certainly trying to groom him. I feel so guilty, that i didnt get this man out of our house. My instincts at the time felt there was something wrong. If i bring this up with my brother now, im not sure he would access any support and hes already struggling mentally in a difficult relationship. I dont know what to do.

You tell your brother. Obviously. Tou sont ask him if he was abused, but you tell him what you have learnt about this person.

Sorry this needs a trigger warning. Not sure how to do that!

Yes. Your right. Im just wondering if i should wait until he is less fragile

I don't know what your relationship is like with your brother.

I've got two brothers, with both of them I could say something like 'Do you remember whatshisface who stayed with us for a bit? He's been convicted of sexual abuse. If anything did happen to you whilst he was staying with us, you can talk to me if you need too.'

Maybe your brother is fragile because of something that happened and you telling him you know what that man is will mean your brother has someone to talk to. I hope nothing happened, but in case it did I would say talk to your brother sooner rather than later.

Thank you. You're right. I will talk to him.

We're moving this thread over to our Relationships topic for the OP.

Maybe bring it up by saying you've just found out this info about this person and then thats opening up a conversation with your brother and you. You could ask him outright if anything happened. But maybe a more gentle approach might help if anything did happen and he feels embarrassed to say. Because if something did alot of people who've been SA feel shame and embarrassment. I know i did

Before you do anything please have a look at the resources NAPAC provide here

napac.org.uk/know-a-survivor/

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I don't know what your relationship is like with your brother.

I've got two brothers, with both of them I could say something like 'Do you remember whatshisface who stayed with us for a bit? He's been convicted of sexual abuse. If anything did happen to you whilst he was staying with us, you can talk to me if you need too.'

I agree with this.

and also, if he is fragile, there may well be a link, and you telling him may be the exact thing he needs to provide the clue as to his own mental health etc.