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My anxiety is crippling me atm has he left me

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IMissUI · 17/10/2021 17:30

I'm stupid and just dumb. I know hes a nasty person but I have no one else. Hes been off with me since yesterday even though I have every reason to be annoyed. I took Lo to the doctors and told OH I'd be back by 12 he said to call him and wake him up and we'd go do something. So I call him when I'm done and he said ok hes getting up (does night shifts got back 7.30). I got home, parked far struggling with LO. OH not up, I went upstairs and asked if hes getting ready he said no. By now I'm pissed off because hes said he would, and has been mentioned it for the past few days. It's also too late to make plans with anyone else. So as always he ruins the day before its even started. I said a few choice words and left.

When I got home in the evening, he was trying to be all cute by hiding behind the front door and scaring us. Like the argument in the morning didnt happen. I was still annoyed at him but still talking to him. He then goes in the the kitchen and starts giving me silent treatment. Anyway we both ended up arguing and hes been off with me since. I have tried numerous times to just go near him and hold his hand but he just shoves me away from him or just swears at me. I tried again just now and he just shoved and pushed me out the way again swearing and left to go to the gym. I feel sick that my life is like this.

I also started my period yesterday and realised that my hormones are always all over the place and I've been getting incredibly emotional the past few months just before I'm due on, its becoming mentally draining, I question every part of my life and just really feel so shit. All this pent up emotion is eating up inside me.

Please can you give a some comfort, I feel sick with dread

OP posts:
MichelleScarn · 17/10/2021 17:33

Oh dear, as ever in similar threads is always about communication. So you were pissed off when he was trying to make it like the argument didn't happen, and then pissed off again when you were then trying to make it up later in your time?

MissNothing1991 · 17/10/2021 17:33

I'm sorry, I know he said to call him and wake him and he'd get up, but as a former nightshifter myself, this is very easily said. However it can be difficult to get to sleep once shift ends, in which case I could understand why he changed his mind. Even if he went to sleep once he got home he would be having about 4 hours sleep.

I can see why this annoyed you, but I'd be miffed if my ex had taken a strop at me if I had to cancel after 4 hours sleep.

Motnight · 17/10/2021 22:30

He is physically pushing you? You need to leave.

Justcallmebebes · 18/10/2021 10:30

The arguing and pushing etc isn't ideal and this thread does seem to have died, but were you expecting him to get up and go out after approx 4 hours sleep? I'd have been pissed off too

MissNothing1991 · 21/10/2021 00:55

Did you sort it out OP?

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