Why have I been so weak again?

[Elliebb57]

Iv known my ex a long time we have a lot of history and not all good, we've split up a few times cos of him cheating and too much involvement with the ex wife, last year he blocked me for 2 months when he ended it, he said just so we stayed away from each other,but we ended up seeing each other every week again until July this year when things got not good again as I wanted more than what he did..He's got a lot going on with his mum who has dementia...So we decided to end it for good, we kept a bit of a distance and he swore on his mums life there was no one else, anyway last we he started calling every day but not Saturdays and Tuesday evening we were joking about and he ended up coming over and staying, we continued talking daily then Friday he said that night was a one off, ok it annoyed me at 1st as we should of discussed it and it probably wouldn't if happened..Now I haven't heard from him over this weekend..I just feel like an idiot and Yr all probably say the same...He just gets to me and I shouldn't even be talking to him after all the crap....So annoyed with myself

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This has been going on sooo long , you know the score

Hey, it’s low self esteem & lack of self worth. Does this man really deserve your time, effort or head space? Absolutely not.

Spend that on yourself instead. Get a therapist, start a new project… anything but wasting your life on this silly situation.

Change his name on your phone to 'KNOB'

I've put up with more Situations like this than I care to admit.

But he actually blocked you?! Strangely that would be my line. I would have blocked him back at that point and never released the block.

He is just using you. You deserve better

Because you believe in the star crossed lovers crap spewed out by romantic fiction writers. Back in the real world anything short of “they are shipping me out to front” is just an acceptable way of saying I’m just not into you. Hell even men shipped to the front maintained romantic relationships whilst under fire.

When you are in love and you have a strong relationship you will adapt to any situation life throws at you. When you are not in love you don’t.

Sorry but I don't really understand what this means?

Ex’s are ex’s often for good reason. He is stringing you along because he can and you actually allow him to do so. You’re basically telling him victim here.

You do realise you are being used here don’t you?. Read about codependency in relationships and see how much of that relates to your own behaviour.

Oh, stop beating yourself up. You screwed someone because you fancied screwing him. If you think it was a bad idea, don't do it again.

The reason you're doing things you don't like is because you're so willing to find yourself faulty, and then there's an internal pattern that goes 'I know this is a bad idea, but it feels nice, and frankly, I'm already a bit of a fuck up, so what difference will it make?'

Once you stop thinking you're a fuck up (or however you choose to phrase it) that train of thought changes to 'I'm good as I am. Doing that thing will feel good for a while, but in the long term, it's going to make things worse for me. I'll give it a miss.'

The only thing wrong with you is that you think there's something wrong with you. There isn't, so stop being so annoyed at yourself. You did something you felt like doing. You don't want to do it again? Fine. It will never be un-done. so the only thing you can change is the way you judge yourself for it. People are saying he used you, but you used him too, right? You don't have to be the 'poor me, I've got no self control' victim, here.

You're not going to get over him while you're under him. Make space in your life for something better

This is going nowhere. You will not ride off into the sunset together. He’s using you for an ego boost and an easy shag. He may even have another girlfriend. Either way, he’s no good for you. Delete. Block. Ignore.

There's a reason it's never worked out.
Of course there are other women.
Cut your losses.