I'm posting because I didn't want to say this to a friend because to me it's unhealthy but I'm not sure if it's common. I've known her for years so 10 years ago she had what she would describe as an unhealthy on/off relationship with a man that went on for just under 3 years. He broke it off eventually and she moved away. Now over the years he / their relationship has came up a lot in conversation and truth be told I don't think she's yet over it. She did tell me she thinks about him / their relationship most days. She doesn't want him back but she seems to relive a lot of the times they had together. She's since had other relationships and the life she has now is very different to then but for whatever reason he still an omnipresent thought in her mind.
I wonder if I should tell her to go to counselling? I don't want to appear crass and I'm not sure if counselling would help with this because surely it'd just be an occasion to relive it even more? I do listen to her and don't mind doing so, it's just that it occurred to me that she's been under this spell now for going on over a decade and whatever it is it can't be healthy.