Old friend 25 + years we've known each other long before having kids. We have or had a good friendship independently of our kids. But I am now godparent to her child.
Our children are roughly the same age and were until recently super close, best friends. In the past couple of months her child (who is a school year older) has shown indications of wanting to pull away from mine: I think she is more conscious of the age gap and wants to spread her wings a bit.
Which is totally fine. I completely get this, I get that its not really in my friend's control and she shouldnt try to sway her daughter and has to allow her to make her own way.
But my friend has recently more or less dropped me completely. She's not responded to three or four attempts to arrange things with the children but also ignored several text messages from me asking to arrange drinks with her and other non child-related social events.
I'm pretty sure there's no other background to this: there's been no falling out whatsoever and no bad feelings so I really cannot think of another reason why this has happened. I'm 90% sure she is feeling awkward about the thing with the kids and doesn't really know how to handle it so is running away from me.
At some level I can sort of undrestand this but I also think it would be much easier if she fronted this out and came clean with me and we can agree that for the time being our friendship should be about us and the kids and their friendship should take a bit of a back seat.
I just feel quite hurt and angry that instead of discussing this like an adult she's basically hiding from me. But maybe that's the only way she feels she can deal with it without hurting mine or my DC's feelings.
I've stopped contacting her as she's made clear that she's uncomfortable and will leave it for the time being. But I just wanted to sense check whether others think my feelings are reasonable or if I'm just being childish?