Invited to strip show

[Zig27]

I have not properly caught up with my friend in nearly 2 years due to covid and she got a new boyfriend. Whenever she gets a boyfriend she drops her friends so the same pattern has started again. I only saw her 6 weeks ago at her mom's funeral, not the time or the place to catch up.

She randomly text the other day asking me to go to a strip show. I had a look and would not pay £25 to see this. She really frustrates me as she is on the dole always complaining she has no money yet is going to a strip show.

I'm a bit baffled she is going when she has a boyfriend as she went mental at her ex boyfriend for looking at his friend's car magazine years ago because there were topless women in the magazine. I actually witness her shouting at her ex, it's a bit pot, kettle, black. Needless to say she didn't respond to my message about not going.

It's not like she wants to catch up and just use me to watch these 'strippers'. I don't know why she thinks because I am working part time she thinks I have money to pay strippers when I am just about affording bills.

You have no idea how bad her ex was, you weren't in the relationship. Emotional abuse is incredibly damaging, and it's not surprising she still struggles with it years later. There isn't a timeline to deal with something like that. There's absolutely zero need to compare to what people have been through on here, it's not a contest. Her trauma is as valid as anyone else's.
You are completely out of order op.
Maybe £25 isn't expensive to her?
Her mums just died - maybe she wants to take her mind off of it and do something she thinks will be fun?
You aren't her friend - that's very clear. You sound like you cannot stand her. She's obviously had some tough times and could use real friends to support her, which going by this thread, you are not.

Also, this is such a non-thread. What’s your question even?

@Zig27

I’m making her ex sound worse than he was. Don’t get me wrong he was controlling telling her not to see her friends and there is no excuse for that but nowhere near as bad as some of the distressing situations that people have been through on here.

She stayed with him for 9 years and no engagement ring asking when they will get married which he kept telling her he didn’t know. She could have walked away anytime as he would not commit to her as they had no children and did not live together.

I have not once said don’t talk about him but she can’t seem to get past the fact he had nothing to offer.

Eughhh