Although I've been on Mumsnet for a few months now, for some reason it won't let me post in the sex topic so hopefully someone in relationships can help or my thread might possibly be moved eventually?
Anyway, as I said I'm a long time poster but have name changed as I'm a little embarrassed. I've not spoken to anyone IRL about this. This has been an issue since I lost my virginity when I was 17, I'm 26 now. I don't feel pleasure when a penis is inside me and I have tried everything that I can think of to try and rectify the issue, so to speak . Trying different positions doesn't make a difference, neither does size. I've had around 16 sexual partners, all different sizes. I've orgasmed but only with a vibrator, never with a partner. I do however get a lot of pleasure from men using their fingers (sorry tmi) but that could be down to the pressure I suppose?
My clit also use to be really sensitive (sorry tmi again) but it doesn't feel that way anymore  I know that must sound stupid. When either myself or a partner plays with it I don't really feel anything but if I use the vibrator it works. It's got to the point now where, on the rare occasion that I actually do have sex, I have to fake my enjoyment/orgasm. I'm not actually interested in sex anymore because of this and it's making me feel quite sad deep down, especially given my age. I've looked this up online a few times and apparently over lubrication can be an issue? I do get very wet but that's not really something that I can help, is it? I've had STI tests in the past which have all come back negative so we can rule that out, although I'm not sure it would make a difference anyway.
Any ideas or advice or should I just prepare myself for a very sad, sexless future?