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Loveisnot · 14/10/2021 12:22

My guy and I have been together 3 yrs and a few months. Have two kids and one on the way. For about five or six months he has completely stopped texting me. No calls. Nothing. I asked if everything was ok he said yes. I used to reach out and he wouldn’t reply even though I knew he was online. Eventually he would reply short answers. I stopped initiating contact during the day so we could talk once we got home. I started to notice I was doing all the talking. So I decided to talk leas and let him come to me. Nothing. Just a hi, then he goes off to the bathroom and stays there for almost an hr. I don’t know why something told me to see check his WhatsApp status and he’s ALWAYS on there. I noticed this for the last three months (I never checked before) and about 2-3 weeks ago I calmly asked if he met someone and he went crazy yelling at me. Told me to have an abortion. The next morning he apologized but he’s attitude hasn’t changed. No cuddles, no goodnight kisses, no good mornings, doesn’t bother to look at me if I asked him a question. And recently he started sleeping in our sons room on the floor. I asked him to leave but he refused. He gets home very late and leaves very early. We have not seen each other. I’m shattered and my gut says there’s someone else.

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TheFoundations · 14/10/2021 12:27

Unless you want a partner who has no respect for your feelings, you need to end this relationship, regardless of whether or not he's having an affair.

He doesn't offer you what you need, and he has no interest in hearing you talk about what you need.

Sorry Flowers

DuchessOfDisaster · 14/10/2021 12:27

I am confused. You live together, why do you need him to constantly text you during the day? Did this start because you suspected him of something?

Pinkbonbon · 14/10/2021 12:40

3 kids in 3 years? (Or are they not all his?)

I wouldn't even start trying for kids with someone until year three at the earliest because you just don't know them before then. You don't know if they're the sort that might display sus behaviour and then scream at you when you inquire about it.

Unfortunately it seems like he is a horrible person.
And yes, he is cheating. Its as clear as day. Unless he has developed ibs.

He is starting to reveal abuser qualities. Get him out, fast.

Who's home is it?

Crikeyalmighty · 14/10/2021 13:00

Start snooping if you can OP — sorry but this screams ‘someone else’ can you get into his WhatsApp on his phone- does he leave it around at all?? If so, top people contacted show on there. If not get Yansa on your phone (android only) - will show you when he is on it and how long— but not ‘who to’ - provided he is using that phone .

Crikeyalmighty · 14/10/2021 13:01

If he is as you think on it a great deal, ask to see his history - if he won’t show you and he never leaves his phone around he is hiding something— but I think you know that’s the case anyway sadly!

litterbird · 14/10/2021 13:06

To me is screams of 'OW'. If not, then this relationship is not healthy at all. A lot has happened from the relatively short time you have been together. 3 children in 3 years is a lot for anyone to take on and you have probably not had a chance to actually get to know each other as you have either been pregnant or the both of you raising children before another one comes along. What you are seeing is probably who he really is. He is not the supportive partner you wanted. I would get out of it if possible. This will just get worse as he tries to find an escape route from this relationship in a form of another woman.

Closetbeanmuncher · 14/10/2021 13:06

Yep he'd cheating. Whose house is it?

Closetbeanmuncher · 14/10/2021 13:06

Hes*

RevolvingPivot · 14/10/2021 13:12

What kind of job does he do? I don't text my husband during the day and he doesn't come home at night.

Loveisnot · 14/10/2021 13:21

Yes we live together. I’m not saying he needs to text me all day. But when for 2.5 years that’s what he has always done and then suddenly stopped.

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ErickBroch · 14/10/2021 13:27

Sorry, I think your instincts are totally right, massive change in behaviour, locking himself in the bathroom and on Whatsapp constantly. You see it all the time on here! People thinking texting all the time is 'weird' is irrelevant - you've always done it and it;s a sudden change in behaviour with no explanation.

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