Dreaming about getting divorced

[Cinnamon12345]

I have fantasies about getting divorced and life on my own but then I start to feel sorry for my husband.
How do I get over this… does anyone else do this?

You need to reflect very carefully on why you are having these fantasies. Can you tell us more?

I think if you are extremely unhappy with marriage and know it's not fixable then you have these thoughts.

I have these dreams when he's doing the silent sulks after disagreements (usually reasonable on my part...) once he's got over it I don't think about it.

How long do the sulks go on for? How frequent are they?

Re your comment:-

"I have fantasies about getting divorced and life on my own but then I start to feel sorry for my husband."

Why do/would you feel sorry for him?. Do you still feel a level of responsibility for him?.

You do realise that sulking is actually a form of emotional abuse. Do you feel ground down by him?.

@JustThisLastLittleBit

How long do the sulks go on for? How frequent are they?

About 3 days or so. I do try to ignore them now.

They do ground me down as I know if I assert myself about something the silent treatment will happen. I bite my tongue a lot.

The silent treatment is very painful and is clearly having an effect on you ie biting your tongue so it doesn’t happen. This means your DH has power over your feelings and behaviour, which is not healthy I’m afraid.

Have you ever discussed this with him?