Anyone ever dated someone they were not really attracted to ?

[Lovelyivy]

Met someone two months ago and we get on great! We have same unusual hobbies(we met online on Facebook group for the particular hobby). We both want kids. Same taste in music, movies, same dreams. He is kind, lovely, smart and sex is amazing as well… However, he is not really my type. I thought with time he will grow on me and I’ll start fancying him, but it is still not happening (is it possible that the spark will come later?). Obviously we have sex so I’m not completely turn off by him, but I’m not as affectionate as I would normally be in relationship. I don’t want to give up because I never met anyone so compatible emotionally. What would you do? Keep going or break it off? Didn’t know where to ask for help se decided to post here…

Also, I don't know how this man feels about you but don't you think he deserves better in his life than someone who has no sexual attraction to him at all stringing him along because she's scared she might not find anything better?

I've dated average looking guys but still been attracted to them.

I went on one date with a guy who I emphatically found unattractive and I never saw him again. I just knew that sex would be impossible.

For me, there has to be something.

@Animood

I only really have a burning irrational, overwhelming attraction to people who are completely wrong for me and not good eggs!

So what you have described would be great for me, because I know I can't trust my attraction instincts.

Are you the same?

I'm exactly the same

I could have sex with someone i didn’t find 100 percent attractive but liked
But the day to day stuff, hanging out, doing stuff together sleeping in the same bed
if I didn’t fancy him or find him attractive I just couldn’t do that

I’m seeing someone who I like very much - in fact I could have written a lot of your post.

It’s weird, I look at him and objectively know he is beautiful but it doesn’t turn my insides over. BUT I do want him. I don’t know how old you are but I think connections can change when we get a bit older? This is someone who makes me feel safe, it’s the best sex I’ve ever had, his company makes me happy.

We connected over something incredibly important to both of us and it’s grown into something that makes me happy.

Will it last? I have no idea. But it’s good.

However, I’m in a different place to you. Don’t want more children, don’t know if I want to get married again, not even sure I’d live with a man again. So maybe you need to think a bit more in those terms than whether you fancy him loads?

Yes, I did because he had an amazing personality and was the life and soul of the party, just at a point where I had (finally) gotten over the aftermath of a massively intense and heartbreaking relationship and wanted someone lightheated to have fun with.

Within a month he had turned into a moaning, possessive homebody though, and I ran for it! But it was good until then...