I was seeing this guy for 2 weeks. We went on a couple of dates he was lovely we really got on. Came and helped me with my work and I did with his and spent quite a but of time together and both commented how much we had enjoyed each others company. Told our mutual friend he really liked me, didn't want to end up the lonely old man in the pub when he could be with me etc etc. However he was hurt by his previous relationship with the mum of his kids who he has been broke up with for 2.5 years but things are a bit hostile from what I can gather and he is very very nervous and scared of being hurt again which he told me. I am a quite full on and committed person from the beginning and he did tell the mutual friend and me he just wanted to go really slowly as he was scared. I took this onboard maybe a bit too late as after we had had a great Saturday night he then went home and got another telling off off his mum for being late as he is living at home with parents whilst his house purchase goes through. Then from Sunday afternoon onwards he goes quieter and quieter until Wednesday morning when he sends me the fatal I don't think its going to work text you're a great person, I still want to be your mate and will always help you out and it's not me it's you and I don't want to change you etc. I was gutted and shocked because I did think we could work! I had also said to myself that weekend to calm down, back off, slow down and don't mess this up as it could be really good! Too little too late from me!
Then since then he has passed my work twice, I wasn't outside the office or anything or on view and he beeps and waves both times when he could easily have gone past unnoticed, I then put a post on FB of a bike ride I'd been on with a friend and he's the first person to like it and hasn't ever liked anything I have put on FB before, I then drive past him getting out of his car he clocks me way down the street and waves and then walks to go up his drive and then stops and turns round to come back to the road to wave and grin from ear to ear as I drive past and then last night I put a story on Instagram and he replies to that as well!
He has got pressure from his ex, his mum, his livestock needing extra attention at this time of year, 2 kids, just bought a house, loads of work on so am I the easiest thing to go to relieve some pressure but is he keeping his presence known in my life for a reason? Do I send him a message in a couple of weeks to see how he is doing? I'm confused and trying to work out what he is thinking without putting any pressure or stress on him as I don't want to push him away if he just needs time and space?
Any thoughts anyone?